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19 Secret Signs Your Girlfriend Loves, Supports & Wants the Best for You!

If you’re wondering how to tell if your girlfriend loves you, you can always ask her. But if you’re not ready, look for these behaviors.

how to tell if your girlfriend loves you

Wondering how to tell if your girlfriend loves you? The easiest way would be just to ask. But, if you are like the rest of humankind, putting yourself out there for that type of rejection is terrifying.

Also, if you put her on the spot, there is no way to know if she will tell the truth. She might just say she loves you because she doesn’t want to hurt or lose you. You want her to come to you when she is ready, instead of being pressured to say she loves you.

If you want to know how to tell if your girlfriend loves you, it is about more than just words. If you’re wondering, does she loves me, you need to know that she speaks volumes to you in the way she behaves and what she does.

[Read: 23 signs she’s using you, walking all over you and playing you for fun]

How to tell if your girlfriend loves you without asking her directly

When a woman is in love, she admires the man of her dreams. A woman in love would go out of her way for her boyfriend.

Women behave in certain ways when they are in love. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, but there are signs of love that are almost universal. Obviously, if she says, “I love you,” then that should be a good sign too. [Read: How to spot physical signs of love & say goodbye to guessing games]

But, if you either aren’t sure it is genuine or she hasn’t put herself out there yet, these are signs she’s smitten. Remember, actions speak louder than words.

1. She does small things for you to make your life better

When a woman loves someone, she will think about them throughout the day. This non-stop thinking about one person makes you want to do something nice for them.

If you find that she plans activities together, folds your laundry the way you like, or stops to get your dry cleaning on the way home from work, she is probably telling you that she loves you through her gestures. [Read: The 18 traits of selfless love that sets it apart from selfish love]

2. She helps with your chores

The fact that she does those little extra things around your place that she doesn’t even like to do for herself showcases her desire to create a better life for you, even if it’s only in small and simple ways.

Whether conscious or not, most women like to nurture and take care of the men they love and do what they can to make things easier for the man in their life.

3. She talks about a future with you

Does your girlfriend talk about the future with you a lot? That doesn’t necessarily mean a wedding and kids. It can be things like vacations you two should go on, cities you should move to, or pets you should adopt.

By voicing the fact that she sees a future with you in it, she is letting you know she loves you. [Read: 25 sure signs she sees a future with you and is serious about you]

4. She not only knows what you like, but she tries to participate

Have a favorite video game, and she’s not really into games? She may try to play the same game with you, or perhaps she searches online for more information to complete a level or task when you’re stuck in the game.

Have a favorite dish? By cooking *or ordering* your favorite food, a woman is showing that she not only listens but remembers things about you. Your favorite food, your favorite sports team, or TV show – knowing all these things about you shows that she cares about what makes you happy. [Read: Cooking as a couple – The most romantic tips & date ideas to have fun together]

5. She puts up with your family and friends even when they’re less than gracious

There is nothing worse than dealing with your guy’s mother, especially when she believes that no one is good enough for her baby. The same goes for jealous female friends, rude relatives, or drunken buddies.

While you shouldn’t expect your partner to tolerate out-and-out abuse, her ability to grin and bear it with your loved ones comes from her love for you. So tell them to back off, and be grateful she loves you so much.

6. She is your best friend

So many people wind up dating someone they don’t even connect with emotionally. If you and your girlfriend are best friends as well as romantically involved, you know she loves you. [Read: Sex with your best friend – 30 Qs & Rules before sleeping together]

7. She cares about the things you care about

If you want to know if your girlfriend loves you, pay attention to how she treats things that are important to you. If your work dinner takes precedence over her night out, that says “I love you” more than you know. [Read: 19 signs of a taker in a relationship – Are you a giver or a taker?]

8. She challenges you to be and do all that you are capable of instead of praising you all the time

Being a “yes, woman” is easy. It doesn’t necessarily say “I love you.” Someone willing to challenge you and be honest, even if it upsets you, loves you enough to be honest instead of just telling you what you want to hear.

9. She forgives you

Love is forgiving. All couples fight. Even the so-called “perfect” relationships are going to have conflict.

At some point, you are going to make a mistake, and if your girlfriend loves you, she can truly forgive you. This means letting it go and not bringing it up over and over. True forgiveness is a sign of love.

10. But she does not tolerate bad behavior

A girlfriend who loves you may be forgiving, but that doesn’t mean she’s a doormat. If your girlfriend truly loves you, she will want you to be the best person you can be. That means not accepting your bad behavior. [Read: 17 signs of a supportive partner who encourages you and your goals]

11. She praises you *when praise is due*

A woman who loves you has no problem throwing out a compliment when it is due. Telling someone you admire them means you want them to know how proud you are of them. Someone who loves you wants to lift you up, not tear you down.

12. You are the first person she calls with news

If you are her emergency contact, the person she tells her good and bad news first, and the person she relies on for support, that means she loves and trusts you.

A heavy burden, yes, but it also means you get all the good gossip first… which is a fair trade!

13. She is honest with you about herself

If she tells you her biggest failures or the things that are not so awesome about her, then she loves you enough to be honest with you. If you want to know how to tell if your girlfriend loves you and supports you, keep this in mind because love means wanting someone to know the real you. The good, bad, and ugly. [Read: 23 facts about love that will definitely blow your mind]

14. You can be honest with her about yourself

If your girlfriend loves you, you can be honest with her about who you are, flaws and all. When you are with someone who loves you, you don’t have to put up a front or pretend to be something you are not.

15. She does not take advantage of you

Someone who loves you doesn’t ask for more than you can give them. If your girlfriend loves you, she won’t demand gifts outside of your price range, or take advantage of your home. [Read: 24 sneaky signs you’re dating a genuine 24K gold-digger]

16. She tries to mix things up in the bedroom

If she is willing to address your fantasy in the bedroom, that makes her super vulnerable. Someone who makes themselves vulnerable for someone else is in love, period. You wouldn’t put yourself out there to look or feel stupid if you didn’t love someone.

17. She has nothing but awesome things to say about you, to you, and to others

If nothing but positivity and praise come out of her mouth even when you aren’t in earshot, that is one of the biggest signs she is in love.

We can all say nice things someone is listening. It is what we say when we don’t think they hear us that is the most honest. [Read: Don’t push away a girl who shows these 30 signs she cares for you]

18. She cares what you think about her

Girls are usually an open book. As much as they try to play hard to get, sometimes it is hard to keep emotions out of dating.

If you have a girlfriend that keeps the “I love you” under wraps, and you search for signs that say she’s been hit with cupid’s arrow, stop waiting to hear the words and hear what her actions are saying.

19. She loves the weird things about you

Whether it’s your dorky action figure collection or your snorting laugh, your girlfriend loves the weird things about you as much as your shining attributes.

Someone who really loves you doesn’t just love you at your best, but also at your weird and dorky core.

Understanding the differences between love, lust, and attachment

The problem with love, lust, and attachment is that they can all sort of look like love. But do not be confused, they are not the same thing. Lust is purely hormonal, a physical attraction that seems like love but is far more shallow and fleeting.

Attachment can be as strong as love, but they aren’t the same. You can hate someone you are attached to – just look at abusive relationships.

True love benefits both partners, and comes with respect and accountability. [Read: Love vs attachment – Is there a vital difference between the two?]

What to do if your girlfriend doesn’t love you?

Don’t panic. We hear a lot about love at first sight… but the reality is that is not the case for most people. The majority of women only fall in love with someone they know, and trust. Love is beautiful but it is also scary, and it takes time for some women to open up. So be patient! [Read: 27 clear signs she’s not into you anymore and is losing interest]

[Read: How to be a good boyfriend – 33 traits that’ll make you the best one ever]

Realizing how to tell if your girlfriend loves you is easy if you follow these signs. If not, then you might have to throw the cards down and see how they fall by saying ” I love you” first and gauging her response.

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