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How to Sext a Girl and Warm Her Up to Getting Naughty With You

If you’re not comfortable sexting a girl, odds are you’re not going to do it, or it’s not going to go well. It’s about time you learned how to sext a girl.

How to Sext a Girl

Learning how to sext a girl isn’t easy. Well, sexting whether you’re a guy or girl isn’t easy, especially if you’re new at it. There’s a lot of things you need to keep in mind, and if you’re nervous, it can hinder the experience.

Firstly, most of us don’t know how to take it to the next level without coming on too strong. You want to make sure she wants to take it to the next step, and that it’s a smooth transition. If you don’t know how to sext a girl, there’s a chance that you’re either going to try to avoid it or you’ll struggle to go through this part of the relationship.

I don’t want any of those things to happen to you. Though it’s going to take some practice and time before you become more comfortable, it’s important you give it a try.

Sexting is a great way to increase the sexual tension between you two and amplify your feelings towards each other. On the other hand, if you do it too soon or sext the wrong thing *which can get you into trouble*, you’ll scare her off, and that’s not the experience you want to be left with.

[Read: How to start sexting a girl when you’ve never sexted her before]

How to sext a girl and get her to enjoy having a naughty conversation with you

So, it’s about time we got started and give you some insight on how to sext a girl. That way, you go into this smartly and get the results you want. Know the dos and the big don’ts.

#1 What’s your relationship like? Listen, if you two are just friends, trying to sext her isn’t going to be a good idea. You cannot start to sext someone you don’t have any sexual chemistry with. And even if you think your friend may be into you, sexting her is too pushy and forceful. You need to look at the relationship and really be honest with yourself on what it is. [Read: How to build sexual tension with a girl to the point where it’s out of control]

#2 Lay down the rules. I know rules can be annoying, and you want it to be spontaneous, but it’s important to create boundaries that will protect both of you. You two need to be on the same page. If you’re both interested in sexting, do it on an app that’s encrypted or deletes messages and photos from your phone. Technology is great, but things can happen. [Read: How to get a girl to send nudes by asking her subtly]

#3 Timing is everything. When it comes to learning how to sext a girl, timing is everything. If you’re just getting to know a girl, sexting is a bad idea. A sext too soon can send the wrong message. Before sexting, there are a couple of things you should have already done. Firstly, you two should have kissed already, don’t jump the gun. Then, see how she responds to that.

#4 Know when to back off. You two may have already kissed, but when you tried to sext her, she became uncomfortable and awkward. Don’t force it on her; read the signs, and know when to back off. It doesn’t mean she’s not interested, but you’re going to fast for her. I know you want to take that step, but she may not be ready yet. [Read: How to get a girl to sext you and actually feel comfortable doing it]

#5 Think with your head. You need to know that for women, foreplay is mental. You need to mentally arouse a woman if you want a positive reaction. So, sexting can be a great way to mentally stimulate a woman, but that means you’ll need to use your imagination and be descriptive in your texts.

#6 Use photos carefully. Sending a dick pic may sound like a good idea at the moment when you’re horny, but is it a good idea to send it to her? If you two haven’t been sending photos to each other, don’t make your first photo a dick pic. If you’re not 100% sure she’d be comfortable receiving a sexual picture of you, don’t send it. [Read: Why men love sending dick pics and why women hate receiving them]

#7 Use some emojis. Your message shouldn’t be something she needs to decrypt. But you can certainly use some emojis here and there to add more flair and personality to the message. However, for now, stay away from overly sexual emojis such as the peach or eggplant. Keep the emojis playful and light, she how she responds to them.

#8 Don’t make crude compliments. If you get to the point where she’s sending you sexy photos, watch what you say. You can make compliments, and you should make them, but keep them respectful. If you two haven’t been intimate, don’t be vulgar. Instead, be relaxed and romantic with your responses, like “I love the curves of your body.” [Read: 35 sexy things to text a girl and leave her feeling wet]

#9 Don’t force the sext. You need to be in the right mindset to sext a girl. If you feel like you have to do it right now, don’t do it. It needs to come from a place of confidence and arousal. If you force it, you’re not going to have a good experience. If you’re not in the mood, wait until you are. There’s no rush.

#10 Don’t nag for nudes. Oh man, those type of men are really annoying. You need to understand she doesn’t owe you any nude photo. Just because she’s interested in getting to know you doesn’t mean she has to send you a picture of her ass. So, if she says no, you need to stop nagging her for a photo. You’re going to get nothing, and you’ll kill the relationship.

#11 Reveal your fantasies once you two sext. Don’t reveal your sexual fantasies before you two have been intimate or have sexted. You two need to ease into it and get comfortable around one another. If you reveal your sexual fantasies too soon, it could scare her off. Timing is everything. [Read: 20 sexy texts that can help you start sexting a girl]

#12 Learn what she’s into. When you’re sexting, this is your chance to learn what she likes in bed. You can’t get it any easier than this; she’s literally telling you what she’s into. Of course, there’s a chance she’s saying certain things because she feels you’ll like them. But for the most part, take this as an opportunity to learn about her desires.

#13 Have a goal. Of course, you can sext for the sake of it, but you should have an end goal. The entire point of sexting is to make her aroused and eager to actually experience sex with you. So figure out what your goal is before sexting her. You’re not sexting her ‘just because.’

[Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl that’ll make her so horny she’ll start sexting you!]

Now that you know how to sext a girl and arouse her in all the right ways, the next time there’s wild chemistry going on with a girl you like, test the waters by taking it to the next level.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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