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How to Make Your Wife Feel Special: 50 Small Ways to Give Joy

Happy wife, happy life is all about knowing how to make your wife feel special. It isn’t in the grand, but the small gestures, that make us feel good.

how to make your wife feel special

Okay, I am going to let you in on a little secret. I get you. Yep, I am a woman and a wife, and I totally understand the rock and a hard place that you frequently find yourself in. And now matter how hard you try, sometimes knowing how to make your wife feel special backfires.

Wives are, well, temperamental. What we say we want and what we sometimes want can be the exact opposite, which has husbands spinning their wheels and never feeling like they can do anything right.

How to make your wife feel special

I am also going to let you in on another little secret. Your wife wants one thing, although it seems the opposite. She wants you to love her unconditionally, be happy, and make a happy home.

If you look for a way either to turn her sullen mood around or to show her gratitude for all that she does for you, there are many simple ways to make your wife feel special that doesn’t involve much punishment on your part at all.

#1 Talk nicely about her. You make your wife feel special by letting her overhear the nice things you say. A compliment is sometimes twice as nice when it is overheard and unexpected. [Read: Mushy ways to show someone you love them]

#2 Make a big deal out of the small things she does. So, she does the laundry every day, just one day make a big deal about it. It makes her feel like what she does has meaning, instead of it being mundane.

#3 Put her picture on your phone screen. Nothing makes a woman feel more special than being the picture you have on your cell phone, on your work desk, or anywhere really. Wanting our image around makes us feel like you really like having us close. [Read: 15 rules to be a good partner in a relationship]

#4 Post pictures of her to your social media pages. Forget posting what you have for lunch and post a picture of her. Include a caption to tell the world how much you love her to make her feel special.

#5 Tell her how lucky you are to have her. Let her know that you know you are lucky to have her. Not feeling taken for granted is the best way to feel special.

#6 Let her catch you staring at her. The next time you catch a glimpse of how beautiful she is, hold the gaze a little longer so she catches you looking at her. Nothing makes us feel more special than thinking you admire us even when we don’t know.

#7 Smile at her for no reason at all. We want to make our husbands happy. Show her that you are pleased with her and smile for no reason at all to make her feel like she lights up your world.

#8 Say thank you. Nothing makes someone feel more special than being appreciated. Saying “thank you” goes a super long way.

#9 Take something off of her plate for the day without being asked. Taking just one to do or errand off of her list makes her feel like a queen for a day.

#10 Open the door for her. Just because you aren’t dating, that doesn’t mean that you can’t be the chivalrous man she met.

#11 Pull out her chair. Same deal! [Read: The modern day gentleman’s guide to wooing a lady]

#12 Do a load of laundry. Yep, something so small makes someone feel super big.

#13 Get her her favorite drink before she even asks. If you go to dinner or out for drinks, get her favorite drink before you serve yourself. Putting her first makes her feel like she is something special to you.

#14 Have dinner waiting for her when she gets home. Take dinner off of her plate, no pun intended. If she is typically responsible for dinner, then text and let her know that you want to do something nice and bring dinner.

#15 Plan a night doing her favorite things. Not just entertainment if you know what I mean.

#16 Throw her a surprise party, just ‘cause. It doesn’t have to be her birthday for you to celebrate her and your love for her.

#17 Plan a weekend getaway; kids covered included. Take care of all the plans, even the kids, and have the lover’s suite waiting to make her feel fantastically special.

#18 Congratulate her for something on social media. Everyone likes to be given an “atta girl.” Use your social media site to let everyone know how proud you are of her, and she will feel like a million bucks!

#19 Make your anniversary a big friggin’ deal. Sure, it is just one more year, but let her know that you would choose her all over again.

#20 Tell her how pretty she is. When she hasn’t showered, just got back from the gym, or for no reason at all, let her know how pretty you think she is. [Read: 100 sweet things to say to a girl]

#21 Buy her something random just to let her know that you thought of her. It doesn’t have to be anything big, just something that says you are on my mind and special to me.

#22 Send her a text message with something loving. Get her revved up for an amazing night of making her body feel special. [Read: 30 hot, sexting examples to start a naughty text marathon]

#23 Skip guys night and choose her this time. Women, once in a while, like to feel like the priority. If Thursday nights are usually reserved for guys only, tell her that you are foregoing the guys and hanging with her.

#24 Instead of getting yourself something you’ve wanted, save up to get her something she’s dreamed of. If you use your money saved to spend on her, it tells her you put her ahead of your own wants, and that is a pretty powerful way of making her feel special.

#25 Finish that stupid project you promised her a long time ago. If she hasn’t said a word about the mess you made, but it inconveniences her, take the time just to finish the do-it-yourself project you started and give her some peace of mind. It makes her feel like she’s something special to you.

#26 If it is raining, drop her off in front. Instead of parking and letting her get all wet on the way to the door, let her off in front and take one for the team.

#27 Empty the dishwasher. Those little things let us know that you get how mundane our lives feel. It makes us feel more special.

#28 Show up at work to take her to lunch. Show everyone at her workplace that her husband thinks the world of her by showing up for lunch with flowers in hand. What an amazing way to make her feel special!

#29 Take the kids to the store early and bring her breakfast in bed. Make a big deal out of her and get the kids involved.

#30 Listen to her, like really listen to her. Put your phone down and listen, that makes us feel special and worthwhile.

#31 Brag on her in a group. Tell everyone in the group about all the amazing things she accomplished lately. She’ll act embarrassed but love every minute of it.

#32 Kiss her. You don’t need a reason. [Read: Foolproof kissing tips for a perfectly sexy smooch]

#33 Get her car detailed. Women don’t like to drive around in kid’s filth, but with very little time, we end up doing it. Make her feel special by giving her a clean new ride, even if for just one day.

#34 Do something without being asked. Take out the trash, get the oil changed, or just pick up your socks. That makes her feel like you get it and care how special she is to you.

#35 Give her the night off. Let her go out with her friends and have a night on the town. Getting dressed up makes every woman feel special.

#36 Buy her a new dress. Buy a sexy dress to let her know how sexy you think she is!

#37 Tell her you love her, and that if you did it all again you would choose her. Just saying “I love you” is enough to make someone feel special. [Read: 25 ways to say “I appreciate you” without using words]

#38 Let her be right once in a while without an argument. Stop arguing and just realize it is more important to be happy than right. She feels special that she didn’t have to beat something into your head.

#39 Recognize something mundane she’s done. A woman’s work is never done, nor is it ever recognized. Be that person who makes her feel special for doing nothing special at all, but what she does.

#40 Acknowledge all the many things she does behind the scenes without asking for anything in return. Tell her you know that she asks for nothing and does so much.

#41 Compliment the way that she looks when she isn’t dressed up for the night. If she has an awesome ass, say so. Compliment something about her when she isn’t expecting it.

#42 Hold her tight in bed. Wrap your arms around her instead of retreating to your separate ends to make her feel warm, loved, and special.

#43 Send the kids to grandma’s and have a stay at home evening for two. Show her how special her lady parts are by focusing some time on them. Ditch the kids, so it is all about her. [Read: 24 flirty and romantic things you should do for your girl]

#44 Tell her the story of the first time you knew you loved her, again and again. Nothing makes us feel more special than hearing about that first moment that you fell in love. Nope, we never get sick of hearing it.

#45 Never leave the house without a kiss. Make her feel special by kissing her on the way out the door. Never leave her behind without telling her how much she means and a peck on the cheek to make her feel special. [Read: The forehead kiss and why it’s so special to every woman]

#46 Before you lay your head down every night say, “I love you.” A given to a happy wife, happy life!

#47 Hold her hand. Let her know she is special and protected by holding her hand for no reason at all. Making contact out of the blue lets us know we are still special to our husbands.

#48 Tell her what a good mother she is. Being a mother is one of the most thankless jobs on earth. Let her know she is a good wife and mother regularly.

#49 Touch her softly and often. [Read: Skin hunger and the human need to touch someone]

#50 Do little things. Add a little extra to the account just for her or order her something online to show up at the door.

Knowing how to make your wife feel special isn’t about the big things, but is found in the smaller things you do. Sure, buying her a new car is super awesome, don’t get me wrong. But, sometimes just recognizing and telling someone “good job” is enough to make her feel like she is worthwhile and the light of your life.

[Read: Best husband ever! 10 gestures that make a man a bragworthy catch]

But, if you do small things on a daily basis and learn to give without expectations, you will understand how to make your wife feel special, and she’ll really appreciate you for who you are.

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Julie Keating
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