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How to Make Love to a Woman: 21 Tips to Leave Her Moaning for More

Having sex is great. But sometimes you need to learn how to make love to a woman, so you can show her just how well you can seduce and pleasure her!

how to make love to a woman

Wild sex is fun from time to time. But every woman *and man* needs to experience sensual, real passionate lovemaking every now and then to truly experience bliss. If you’re wondering how to make love to a woman, here’s everything you need to know to do it right.

Women love slow, romantic sex. In other words, we love when a man makes love to us. Forget banging, getting laid, getting it on, and all of those different ways to have sex. We often love the caring nature of making love more than any of that.

This is a lot different that your average male because their instincts most often drive them in the direction of hot, steamy, rough sex. That being said, they don’t exactly know how to make love the way a woman might like it best.

How making love is different than your average sex

They don’t just call it “making love” for no reason. This type of sex is much different from your average romp in the sheets. There’s a lot more care and emotion involved in making love than just taking off your clothes and going at it.
This doesn’t mean that every time you have sex with someone you love, it has to be categorized as making love. In fact, this type of sex should be saved for special occasions because it is such an intimate act.

If you’re wondering how they’re both different, check out these 34 ways making love is very different from just having sex!

Always remember that just having sex isn’t bad at all. It’s just that making love just takes everything to a whole new level of intimacy. But if you want to make love every night assuming that’s what you need to do to impress your girl, you should know that it can start to feel tiring very soon.

Just as with romance, a few romantic gestures everyday is beautiful. But if you overdo it, everything starts to feel a little too overwhelming! So remember to keep the balance right, and mix up lovemaking with some plain old sex, some dirty sex, rough sex, naughty sex and everything else too! [Read: The 7 sexy types of sex you need to have in your relationship]

How to make love to a woman and make her love it

Making love to a woman is not an easy task, and most men need some direction. Who better to get that from than a woman herself? If you want to make love to a woman and really show her how you truly feel about her through sex, this is how you should do it.

1. Take it seriously

I know that making jokes and being silly can really ease the seriousness of sex and make it light and fun. However, if you want to really find out how to make love to a woman, you’ll want to be serious about it.

Set the jokes and funny antics aside for the night and put on a more serious, intimate tone. Not only will she be able to feel the difference in your emotional state during sex, but she’ll also be able to feel just how serious you are about HER, and that will translate into some great lovemaking. [Read: What are the five senses of sexy lovemaking?]

2. Take it easy

Lovemaking isn’t the time for new and tricky moves in bed. Stick with what’s tried and tested, and focus more on her body and less on talking or making her laugh. Passion is built when your bodies do the talking and work in sync with each other, when she can see the hunger you have for her in your eyes and the way you touch her, that would only arouse her more.

3. Make her feel desirable

If you want to make love to a woman, let her see it in your eyes and in the way you touch her body. If you take time to pleasure her and please her in bed, your excitement would grow too.

Let her see that you’re holding back from penetrating her even though you really want to. Let her feel your lust as you firmly and passionately run your fingers against her back, or grasp her hips. Compliment her body, and play with it like it’s something you never want to let go of. [Read: How to get a girl to have sex with you by arousing her very subtly, all day]

4. Foreplay should be emotional

Normally, your foreplay might be intense and physical… at least I hope it is. When you get to the foreplay portion when you’re trying to make love to a woman, though, it has to be a lot more emotional than it is physical.

This doesn’t just start when you get home. This should be started during the day with sweet, loving text messages sent her way. This kind of foreplay really speaks to her emotional side and will get her in the romantic mood for some fantastic sex later on. [Read: 50 flirty text messages that are sure to make her smile]

5. The entire evening should be romantic

You can’t just make the sex romantic and call it making love. You have to set up the entire mood for lovemaking in order to successfully make love to your woman.

Try having a delicious and decadent dinner that’s lowly lit with a lot of conversation surrounding your feelings for her. You’ll get bonus points if you cook the meal yourself. [Read: 25 really romantic ideas to make your lover melt]

6. Make sure the lighting is dim

To set the mood for making love to a woman, you’ll have to keep the lighting very dim and sultry.

We suggest lighting some candles to give the kind of atmosphere that fosters those sexy shadows you sometimes see in movies. The second she sees the candles, she’ll know that this is a day for lovemaking and not just sex.

7. Throw on some slow, sexy music

None of that grinding, thumping music that initiates the fast-paced sex you’re so used to. Set up the mood with some slow jazz or other mood music with a slower and sexier pace.

This will not only remind you of the mood you’re trying to build, but it’ll also keep your sex slow and romantic, just as it should be when you’re trying to make love. [Read: The absolute sexiest lovemaking playlist guide]

8. Pamper her

There’s nothing that will make her feel more loved than pampering her in every way you can. This means choosing your dinner food based on what you know she loves, giving her a hot oil massage, and just telling her how beautiful she is in every way.

If you know that she loves something in particular that really helps her to unwind and relax, make sure you do it for her.

9. Pick the best place

Now, this doesn’t mean you should book a hotel room or try to get frisky outside. Actually, making love is most effective when done in your own home. It’s much more personal that way.

However, you can decide where in your home is the most romantic place to do the deed. If the bedroom is the nicest and coziest, do it there. If you have a fireplace and can lay down a blanket, that could make for an extremely romantic and intimate setting. 

Create a romantic setting to make love with her, and she’ll love everything about it even more! [Read: Sexy bedroom – 24 of the best sex room ideas to create the best place for sex]

10. Don’t touch her in between her legs right away

It’s very tempting to slip your fingers into her panties as soon as she gets naked. That’s the whole point, right? Get her “wet enough” to penetrate her? But if you want to know how to make love to a woman, learn to arouse her and get her horny without even touching her down there.

Run your hands all over, kiss her entire body, stimulate her nipples and arouse her, without actually touching her down there. Doing this gives her body enough time to get aroused without the pressure of speeding up.

11. Spend a lot of time on foreplay

It’s easy for a guy to get hard, and even get a release, all in under five minutes. But everything takes longer for a woman, so don’t make her feel guilty for that. Indulge her, spend time arousing her and just making her get wetter and hornier. You don’t have to have sex anytime soon. Just take it as slow as you can. [Read: What is foreplay? 17 slow and sexy moves that’ll seriously arouse her]

12. Stretch the time

If you’re not sure how to keep her horny and wet for an extended period of time, try something beyond kissing and fondling her. Get her to lie down on the bed and give her a sensual massage *if you don’t have any massage oils, just use a liberal amount of body moisturizer, they work just as well*. You can also get her to lie down, get comfortable in between her legs and eat her out for as long as you slowly and comfortably can.

Better yet, do both of them to prolong the foreplay. Start with a massage, and end it with oral sex. [Read: How to eat a girl out – 16 secrets to make her scream]

13. Pick the right positions for intimate contact

Doggy style is not a good position to go for, when you’re making love to a woman. It’s very primal and detached, and that’s exactly the opposite of what you want when lovemaking.

A huge part of how to make love to a woman involves trying positions that are face-to-face and therefore perfect for the closest contact. Missionary and spooning are two of the best positions when you want to make love. [Read: 8 ways to make missionary sex magical and sensuous ]

14. Make it slow

It’s easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment and thrust her hard and fast, because you’re aroused. But if you want to make love to a woman, thrust her deep, but do it as slowly and passionately as you can. Enjoy each stroke like you want to take forever entering and leaving her. Slow thrusts is the real definition of making love. 

Think of it as slow-motion sex, it looks and feels sexier than anything else. And if you want to make love, everything you do in bed should seem purposeful and calculated, and most importantly, slow and pleasurable too. [Read: Slow sex and all the steamy reasons why your girl will enjoy this most]

15. Eye contact

Eye contact while having sex isn’t easy, especially if you’ve been having sex for a while with each other. You may feel awkward or just a bit uneasy. But if you want to make love to her, make sure you stare deep into her eyes while experiencing pure bliss inside of her. 

The easiest way to work around this is to make love to her, and stare deep into her eyes now and then just as you finish kissing her when you’re on top of her. You can also caress her face or stroke her hair out of her face as you do this. It takes the awkwardness out of staring, and makes it more tender and loving instead. [Read: Eye contact during sex and why it takes her orgasms to the next level]

16. Make it more about her

This doesn’t just mean pampering her. This means actually making the sex more about her feelings than yours. For guys, it’s easy to get off after a little while, but women typically take more time.

So focus the sex on her pleasure this time. Spend some time giving her some much-appreciated oral, and focus on getting her off before you finish. Be selfless in bed, and make her pleasure your number one priority.

17. Use your hands

When you penetrate her, it doesn’t have to mean the end of every other kind of fun. Penetration shouldn’t be the last step of sex, before you roll over. Instead, now and then, slip out of her again and use your fingers as you kiss her. Mix it up, but keep your movements slow and sensual. Use your fingers to arouse her and give her a new sensation in the middle of sex.

Not only will it feel different, but the sensations of your fingers could even help her get more turned on, and orgasm better too. [Read: How to finger a girl and make her orgasm in no time]

18. Tell her how much you care about her

And do so while you’re having sex. It can be a bit challenging for a guy to open up about his feelings for the one he loves, especially during sex. But it can be a small touch that can make the world of difference for her. Something as simple as, “You make me so happy,” can do wonders.

19. Gasp and moan

Men don’t have to moan loudly in bed *unless you’re a moaner!* But a few gasps and slow, deep breaths while penetrating her are enough to make your girlfriend or wife know that you’re deeply aroused by her.

You don’t always have to tell your woman that you’re turned on by her. Show her, and let her see that you’re aroused by the way you behave while having sex. If she sees you gasping in unison with her, she’ll know you’re making love to her. [Read: Why do women moan during sex – All the reasons that’ll surprise you]

20. Accidents happen

If the pressure of staying hard for too long gets to you, and you end up ejaculating before you make her orgasm, don’t worry about it. Just continue making love to her and pleasing her in bed, and use your fingers and tongue instead of your limp member. 

Just because you’ve come doesn’t mean it’s time to drop the curtain. Continue pleasing her until she’s just as satisfied *and even more* than you are. Remember, learning how to make love to a woman is about focusing on her needs and her body, not just yours.

21. Take the time to cuddle afterwards

Making love to a woman doesn’t just mean having sex. It means making sure she feels loved and cared for during the entirety of the sex act—and yes, that includes afterwards.

You can’t successfully make love to a woman without spending cuddle time with her after sex. This is perfect for making her feel the love even after the sex has ended, ensuring that she truly feels appreciated for more than just her body. [Read: The best cuddling positions to make your girlfriend feel loved]

Knowing how to make love to a woman is much more than simply perfecting your moves and doing the deed. There’s a lot more that goes into true lovemaking that only a woman shed some light on.

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Kirsten Cole
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