Some guys seem to have all the luck with the ladies, right? How do they do it? Well, we are going to show you how to have game and be more successful.
No one said being a guy was easy. In fact, in some ways, it’s harder for you than for women. It’s expected that you make the first move, so understanding how to have game matters.
Basically, all the work is in your hands. Plus, building the chemistry between you and a woman isn’t that easy to do. You’re trying to be funny without being offensive. You want her to see that you’re a nice guy, but you also read that girls don’t like nice guys. It’s all a balancing act.
[Read: Why the nice guy isn’t really such a nice guy deep inside]
What does it mean to “have game?”
We’ve all heard people say, “Omg, that guy has game!” But what does that really mean? Have you ever thought about it? Why does one dude “have game” but other guys don’t? Is it some superhero power they possess?
Well, to put it simply, a guy who “has game” is good at attracting women. But how do they do it? Were they born that way or did they have to learn how to be a chick magnet?
Some men just have the natural charisma. He’s probably good-looking, outgoing, friendly, and everyone likes him. It’s just the way he is. [Read: What women find attractive – 16 traits that women instantly fall for]
While other guys aren’t born lucky, they have to learn how to have game. And so, that’s why you’re here reading this article, right?
In a nutshell, “game” can be boiled down to one thing: attitude.
What makes guys with game different from guys who don’t have it
A guy with game has self-confidence and doesn’t mind taking chances. It’s kind of similar to being an alpha male. He could even teeter on the edge of cockiness. He is gutsy and courageous, and that is very attractive to women.
The kind of men who have game also has an intuitive understanding of social dynamics. They meet a woman and push her a little, but then they know when to pull back. They are good at reading individual women and adjusting their social behavior to each one of them to be successful. [Read: What do girls find attractive? 15 things all girls find appealing]
In addition to being socially intelligent, a guy with game also takes care of himself. He looks good, has a sense of style, and is physically attractive – at least he works with what he has and makes the best of it.
Women also like a good personality. So, a guy with game will use humor, storytelling, or deep conversations with a woman to create interest in him.
Even if a guy isn’t rich or educated, if he has game he can tell ridiculous stories of stupid things he’s done in the past – sort of like a drunk fraternity boy. The point is to engage a woman and leave her mesmerized.
As you can see, “having game” is all in your attitude, actions, and behaviors. So, now let’s look at how to have game so you can be a chick magnet too. [Read: 18 qualities of a good man that sets him apart from lesser men]
How to have game with the ladies
Now, you don’t need her to fall in love with you, but you do want to make it through the first fifteen minutes without her anxiously waving her friends over to come save her.
We get it, man. This is where you do some personal research and reflection. Figure out what you do wrong and right. Your success rate is a pretty decent indicator.
Take some of these tips we’re going to give you and try to incorporate them into your interactions with women, then see if anything changes. Learning how to have game is in you, you just need to bring it out. [Read: What makes a man attractive? 38 traits that make women desire you]
1. You’re the shit
If you don’t think you’re the best, well, this isn’t going to work. This is what makes your game weak in comparison to the guy that’s rolling in numbers.
He believes he’s the best of the best and that’s why he gets the girls. It’s that simple. It’s time for you to look in the mirror and see yourself in the right light. [Read: How to be a badass – 25 ways to be desirable and intimidating all at once]
2. Who cares about rejection
This is another reason why your game lacks. You fear rejection. Honestly, who doesn’t? Most people have been rejected left, right and center, yet, they still try.
They’re still going out there and talking to people. You cannot let rejection stop you or else you won’t win any girls. Rejection is going to happen, and it literally happens to everyone. [Read: How to overcome the fear of rejection while approaching women]
3. Don’t fake your reactions
Listen, we’ve seen a lot of men laugh at horrible jokes or pretend they understand something when they want to get into a girl’s pants. And we understand you want to sleep with her so you don’t want to cause any problems. But listen, it’s crap.
If she makes a joke and it isn’t funny, don’t start fake laughing. You don’t need to give her approval for a bad joke, nor do you need to pat her ego. Plus, she knows you fake laugh which is even worse. Be genuine with your emotions.
4. Be chill
When a woman sees a man talking to her like he just drank three cups of coffee, she backs right off. It’s too much. You can be excited, that’s fine, but don’t be in her face.
So, take a breath and lean back. When you’re nervous it’s normal to talk faster, but show her you’re not anxious around her. So, talk slow. Do you remember James Bond? He was a slow talker for a reason. [Read: What makes a guy creepy? 24 signs and types of guys girls avoid]
5. Eliminate social anxiety
You’re nervous because you talk to a girl you like we said, it’s completely normal. But, your goal is to eliminate the obvious signs that you’re nervous as hell because she spots it a mile away.
So, if you want to know how to have game, take your hands out of your pockets, maintain eye contact, put your phone away, and don’t constantly touch yourself. [Read: 16 effortless ways you can conquer your approach anxiety]
Your eye contact is a huge indicator of whether you’re into her or not. In addition, it’s also how women gauge if you’re nervous or not. This isn’t a huge deal, however, it does show us your confidence level.
You don’t have to hold eye contact like a creepy man, but you want to be able to look at her in the eyes when she talks. Test it out by holding eye contact until she looks away. You’ll figure out how much eye contact is enough.
7. Don’t think you need to constantly talk
This is important as many people, when nervous, feel the need to talk more. You don’t need to do this.
To be honest, most of the things that come out of your mouth are useless at the end of the day and fill the silence. But, those silences aren’t necessarily a bad thing. So, if you want to say something just to say it, it’s better not to.
8. Don’t ask yes or no questions
If you’re nervous, the worst thing you do is ask her yes or no questions. Where can a conversation possibly go when she only answers yes or no?
Instead, keep the questions open-ended so that she must answer them with either a story or a couple of sentences. It helps you calm down while she’s talking away. [Read: 35 brilliant conversation questions that work like a charm]
9. Don’t be so eager to buy her a drink
Sometimes when women are young, they accept a drink from almost anyone regardless of if they like them or not. As they get older, most stop doing that.
You don’t need to buy her a drink to make her interested in you. Wait half an hour or hour into the conversation before offering her a drink.
10. You don’t have to ask her for permission
Okay, you do when it comes to sexual consent. Then, yes, absolutely, you must ask her permission. But we’re not talking about that.
If you want to dance with her, say to her, “Let’s go dance” and take her hand, leading her to the dance floor. You can do things like this without asking her “Do you want to dance?” It’s just not as much of a turn-on when a guy asks you if you want to dance, for example. [Read: How to seduce a girl and subtle moves to make her sexually desire you]
11. Don’t lean in
You may think this is a weird one, but it’s an important one. When a guy leans in, especially right at the beginning of the conversation, it shows this over-eagerness that women don’t want to necessarily see right away.
Remember this is all a game you play with her. She wants to be chased and you want to chase her. Don’t give her what she wants right away.
12. Show your best qualities
If you want to know how to have game the right way, during the conversation, show off your best qualities. You don’t need to sit there and list off all the things you think are great about yourself.
Instead, use some of your life experiences to show her what kind of guy you are. The worst thing you do is literally to tell her you’re a funny guy.
13. Be classy
Having game doesn’t mean you’re a player. Sure, it means you get women but you’re not doing it by calling women “bitches” and treating them like shit.
No, you’re a classy guy. You have manners and respect for the woman you sit across talking to because you also chose her.
14. Dominance is hot
Women want a man. That, at the end of the day, is what all women are looking for. They want a man. For example, if you’re in a group talking, do not let another person interrupt while you’re speaking.
Now, you don’t need to yell at them or raise your voice but you need to keep talking, showing that you’re not done yet. [Read: How to be a man the way he really should be]
15. Don’t breathe like you just ran a race
We know you like her. We know the feeling, but you need to chill. You may have taken your hands out of your pockets and stopped fiddling with your phone, but you breathe like you just ran a 10k.
Instead, take a couple of long and slow breaths, this helps drop your heart rate, calming you down.
Words of caution when it comes to having game
You might be wondering by now, “do I have to change my whole personality in order to have game?” Well, we wouldn’t suggest being someone you are not for a few reasons.
First, if you put on a show trying to have game, then you aren’t acting like yourself. The woman in the bar might like the guy she meets, but how long will you be able to keep it up? [Read: How to ask a girl out over text – 7 steps to get an instant “yes”]
Think about this metaphor with a beach ball. You can hold a beach ball under water for a while. This is suppressing what the ball really is – a floating device. They are not built to be held under water. When it is being held down, it is not where it should be naturally.
And, when the person takes their hands off of the beach ball, what does it do? It comes bouncing right back up! Why does it do this? Because that’s what a beach ball is. It goes back to its natural state once the suppression stops.
The same is true of human beings. Sure, you can act like you have game with women for a little while. But if it’s not natural to you, how far should you take your act? How long can you stay that way? [Read: How to be yourself – 26 steps to unfake your life and love being you]
And let’s say you actually start dating a girl that you used game on to pick up. That’s great – you got her to go out with you. But eventually, you will become your true self again. And then what? She might feel like you were fake just to pick her up. And honestly, she’s not wrong.
We’re not saying that you shouldn’t learn how to have game. All we’re saying is to use it sparingly. Only use it to the point where you still feel like yourself.
Because if you put on a fake act, the girl will eventually figure it out. It’s best to stay as true to yourself as you can while you are using your game on the ladies.
[Read: 31 secrets to get a girl to like you and desire you without asking her out]
Now that you know how to have game with girls, it’s time you went out and practiced. Remember, take some time to self-reflect and see what you do right and wrong.
