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How to be a Better Boyfriend: 28 Ways to Make Her Feel Lucky in Love

Dating is never easy and sometimes we all need a few tips. Put in the effort and learn how to be a better boyfriend. Your partner will appreciate it!

how to be a better boyfriend

If you want to keep a relationship going with someone you care deeply about, treating them right is essential. You can’t expect someone to stick around if you’re not willing to give them a reason. If you’re wondering how to be a better boyfriend to your partner, here’s all the help you need to make yourself an amazing catch, and make your girl feel like the lucky to date you!

When it comes to relationships, most boyfriends aren’t as good as their counterparts. That’s just the harsh truth. Maybe it’s because girls are more attuned to a person’s feelings and find it easier to be sensitive, but either way, all boyfriends could use some improvement.

[Read: 20 questions to ask her to show your sensitive side]

Most people break up because they don’t feel they’re being treated right

This is the main reason I broke up with guys and why most of my friends ditched their exes. It’s simply because their boyfriends weren’t doing what was necessary to prolong the relationship, and they were sick of it.

Most relationships end this way. Girl tries hard, guy doesn’t, girl asks for guy to try a little harder, he doesn’t, girl ends things. The sad reality about this is that it’s easy for a guy to be a better boyfriend to their lover. [Read: How to make a relationship work: 34 ways to a stronger bond]

It’s not difficult to treat someone in the right way. At the end of the day, if you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, you just need to:

1. Be present

2. Listen to your partner

3. Show empathy and kindness

4. Be attentive

5. Take the initiative occasionally [Read: 13 down to earth ways to express your love without words]

6. Tell them how you feel

7. Be open with your emotions

8. Communicate!

9. Spend time together and make them a priority

It’s not that difficult, right? Okay, it sounds like a long list, but these are simply things that you should do without being asked. If you want to learn how to be a better boyfriend, you need to put in the effort! To make things a little easier, in the next section we’re going to break it down and really show you what you need to do. [Read: 13 strong signs your relationship is built to last]

Let’s get practical – This is how to be a better boyfriend

Some guys are absolutely amazing people. It’s the reason their girlfriends fell for them! The problem is, although they’re great people, they struggle with being a great boyfriend.

If you want to make sure your lover stays with you and ensure you have a happy relationship, work on being a better boyfriend. This list is all you need to know in order to make that a reality and prolong your relationship. [Read: No broken hearts this time: 13 signs your relationship will last]

1. Listen, like, really listen

I know you’ve heard this a hundred times before—even from her during a fight —but it’s really so important in your quest to make her happy and be a better boyfriend.

Girls process information by talking and venting. You are there to support her and all she asks is that you actually listen. Don’t just sit there nodding your head, show her that you’re taking on board what she’s saying. [Read: How to be a better listener in your relationship]

2. Show your appreciation

For some reason, guys just don’t show when they appreciate something unless it’s something super-profound. I know you appreciate it when your girl makes dinner, cleans your place, and buys tickets to your favorite concert. All you have to do is show her that you appreciate it.

Something as simple as giving her a passionate kiss followed by a, “Thank you. I really appreciate this,” is all it takes. [Read: The best ways to show your appreciation for someone you love]

3. Surprise her occasionally

Pick her up and make her get in the car without telling her where you’re going. Or plan a surprise trip. Bring her flowers home for no reason at all. Little surprises like this make her heart flourish. [Read: 24 flirty and romantic things you should do for your girl]

4. Do things that only she wants to do

Relationships require sacrifice sometimes. You both may not always want to do the same things. However, if she can sit through a couple of hours of you yelling at the TV during a sports game, you can spend an hour watching The Bachelor with her.

5. Let her have girl time

This means two things. First, let her have time to do her hair, put a face mask on, and do her nails without you bothering her. She needs this.

Secondly, give her time to go out with her girlfriends. If you get mad every time she goes out with her friends, she’s going to be unhappy and resent you for it. She needs girl time just like you need guy time. [Read: 10 things you shouldn’t do when you have a girlfriend]

6. Don’t get jealous

I guess I should say, don’t show her that you’re jealous. Everyone gets jealous at times, but if you are getting overly jealous, she’s going to be unhappy and think you don’t trust her. Keep it on the down-low.

7. Make her dinner every once in a while

Even if the only thing you can make is mac ‘n cheese, do it. Putting in some effort to try and make her happy with a home-cooked meal is the quickest way to make a girl happy. It doesn’t have to be fancy.

8. Do her chores when she’s had a rough day

If she’s texting you all day complaining about her gruelling boss and tough day at work, go pick up the slack and do some of her chores before she gets home. You have no idea how meaningful this is to the ladies. [Read: 15 traits that’ll make your perfect boyfriend material]

9. Be friends with her friends, or at least make an effort

Even if you’re not their biggest fans, being friends with her friends shows her you want to be a bigger part of her life. She’ll be ecstatic that you’re willing to go hang with her and the girls from time to time.

10. Aim to please her in the bedroom, every time

Those that say sex isn’t important in a relationship are kidding themselves. The truth is girls have a harder time fulfilling their needs in the bedroom and a little more effort from you does great things for your relationship. [Read: How to make a woman orgasm: 15 secrets to master the art]

11. Groom yourself

Keep yourself tidy and smelling great. Girls don’t really want to cuddle up to a boyfriend that smells bad and hasn’t shaved in months. Keep good hygiene if you want to learn how to be a better boyfriend to your girlfriend.

12. Clean up the bathroom every once in a while

Guys tend to be messier in the bathroom than girls, mostly because of their facial hair. The trimmings all over the sink are ANNOYING. If you show her you care about her comfort by keeping it tidy, she’ll notice and be grateful.

13. Take charge and make plans sometimes

You can’t always work together to make the plans for date night. Sometimes, you have to take charge and make the plans for her. A little spontaneity is fun!

Tell her where you’re going to dinner, what movie you’re seeing, and what is in store for the whole night. Girls hate making difficult decisions, and she’ll love not having to put forth the effort for making plans. [Read: 10 great qualities in a guy that girls find attractive]

14. Express your feelings to her

Yeah, yeah, I know. This one is going to be a little harder, but it’s actually a huge way for you to learn how to be a better boyfriend. Girls are great at communicating with emotions, and guys, well, not so much.

Try to tell her how you feel about things so she gets to know you better, and she’ll feel extra special that you opened up to her. Even start by explaining your feelings for her. It’ll get easier with time, I promise. [Read: Why does my girlfriend hate me? 10 questions to find out]

15. Work on being a better person all around

If you really want to be a better boyfriend, then work on being a better person first. If you’re working to better your life and better yourself, you’ll find being a good boyfriend comes naturally, along with the other positives in your life.

16. If you say you’re going to do something, do it

One of the most annoying traits a man often exhibits in a relationship is saying something and then not doing it. If you’re not going to do it, don’t say it! If you want to learn how to be a better boyfriend, do every single thing you say you’re going to do and she’ll adore you for it. [Read: 21 things you do that make your girl adore you more]

17. Don’t keep her guessing

Trust me, most girls are wondering where the relationship is going. Nobody is that secure that they don’t think about it. Take the doubts away from her mind and talk about it. I mentioned opening up and talking about your emotions earlier but you also need to be open about where you see things going.

18. Be consistent

Another super-annoying boyfriend trait is inconsistency. Have your views and stick to them! Don’t change your mind like the wind, it’s not attractive at all. A girl needs to know where she stands but she also wants to know that her guy isn’t going to keep changing his mind every five seconds. [Read: How to show commitment in a relationship & make them feel secure]

19. Be present when you’re together

When you’re spending time together, put the phone down and be present in the moment. There is nothing worse than feeling like your guy doesn’t really want to be there because he’s always on his phone, smiling at something his friend said. If you want to learn how to be a better boyfriend, dedicate your attention to your girl when you’re with her.

20. Show empathy and put yourself in her place

Guys and girls are different, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t try and understand her when she’s going through a hard time. Put yourself in her place and imagine how you would feel. It might not be exactly the same but it shows that you’re trying. Effort is attractive. [Read: 7 reasons why empathy is important in a relationship]

21. Make her a priority

You might not realize you’re doing it, but most guys place their girlfriend down the priority list from time to time. It’s upsetting, even if it’s not intentional. Always make sure that she is your priority, as much as she is able to be depending upon the situation.

22. Be her number one cheerleader

Whenever she needs encouragement, be the one to push her forwards. If she achieves something, shower her with love and compliments. Even in the times when she fails, encourage her and pick her back up again. You have to be her number one cheerleader. [Read: The best ways to cheer your girl up when she’s down]

23. Never let anyone badmouth her

To her face or behind her back, never allow anyone to speak badly of your girlfriend. This means picking up on sarcastic remarks and understanding what they mean too – you have to be her protector and always have her back.

24. Show her respect at all times

It’s easy to be slightly disrespectful without realizing it sometimes. We’re all human and mess up sometimes. However, girls take respect extremely seriously so always make sure that you’re showing the utmost respect to her.

25. Tell her she’s beautiful when she least expects it

When a girl is all dressed up and ready to go out, it’s easy to tell her she’s beautiful. But it means more when she’s in her sweats and not wearing any makeup! Compliments such as these mean more when you least expect them. [Read: How to tell a girl she’s beautiful without sounding cheesy or fake]

26. Remember that you’re a team

Don’t try and struggle through life on your own. Always remember that you’re a team. She wants to help you when you’re having a hard time, just like you want to help her. The key to learning how to be a better boyfriend is to let her in and allow her to be a part of your life – when it’s good and bad.

27. Take the time to learn her love language

We all have a love language. This is the way in which we give and receive love. It might be acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, or quality time. By taking the time to understand what hers is, you can make sure she feels as loved as possible. [Read: How to show affection in a relationship if it doesn’t come naturally]

28. When you’re upset, don’t just shut down

A common trait of many boyfriends is to shut down whenever they’re upset or angry about something. Talk about it! Explain what’s wrong. She’s bound to be going over and over in her mind and wondering whether she’s done something to cause it. Put her out of her misery and talk to her.

Having a strong relationship has so many positive effects on your life. If you really want to know how to be a better boyfriend and treat your lover right, these tips will help make that happen.

Want to know more about the traits that actually make you a much better guy and boyfriend, read these 33 traits of a good boyfriend and make sure you’re following every one of them!

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