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How to Ask a Girl to Hang Out Casually Without Making It a Big Deal

There is a girl you like, but you don’t know how she feels. And that makes you nervous, right? So, here are your answers for how to ask a girl to hang out.

how to ask a girl to hang out

The idea behind understanding how to ask a girl to hang out is terrifying. Most people know how it feels, right? Because, let’s face it, you’ve asked people to hang out before. But how do you ask a girl to hang out?

Here’s the thing, there’s nothing actually to worry about. Right now, you’re freaking out, figuring out what you should do because you like her which is really sweet and understandable. But if you overthink the ways to ask her out, then imagine how it’s going to be when you’re in front of her. [Read: How to make girls chase you and become Mr. Irresistible]

How to ask a girl to hang out

So, if you want to reduce your anxiety then prepare yourself. Knowing what to say or how to say it helps you when it comes to the moment where you ask her to hang out. That’s what we’re here for – to give you guidance.

We don’t want you to make the same mistakes as other people have. We want you to land yourself a date with the girl of your dreams. Why don’t we get started? Because it’s not as hard as it appears to be.

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1. This isn’t a big deal

At this moment, knowing how to ask a girl to hang out is a big deal for you. Otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. It’s really not a big deal. You’re not asking her to marry you or even date you, just a simple hang out.

The reason why you miss so many opportunities with girls is you make a big deal out of something people do every day—they hang out with each other. [Read: How to make a good first impression on a girl and leave her in awe]

2. Ease up with the seriousness

Again, you’re not asking to marry her – you’re just asking the girl to hang out. There’s no need to ask her out using Old English, “Will thy lady accompany me to dinner?” If anything, it freaks her out and ends the opportunity for you to hang out with her because you made her nervous. Keep it casual.

Yes, ask her to the movies but say it in a non-aggressive way. For example, “You want to catch a movie this weekend?” or “Want to grab something to eat?” [Read: How to ask someone to hang out over text correctly and get a big yes]

3. Don’t just do it randomly

If you never talk to her and suddenly one day walk up to her and ask her out, she’d probably say no, or yes and then make up an excuse when it’s time to go on the date. Create some sort of relationship with her.

Make her comfortable around you. No one goes on a date with a complete stranger. Even people we meet at bars and clubs, we usually spent a couple minutes prior talking to them. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you and like you without even talking to her]

4. Ask her out when she’s in a positive mood

If you want a girl to agree to hang out with you, ask her in a moment where you’re experiencing a fun and happy conversation. Maybe she laughs at your story or just finished telling you a funny joke.

The point is, women listen to their emotions, so it’s best to ask a girl out when she’s in a good mood.

5. Keep the date idea simple

Of course, you want to take her on an amazing date filled with puppies and ice cream and sports cars, but don’t. Seriously, you may think women like that, but we don’t—especially not on a first date. Keep it super simple.

Go for a walk, go to the beach, grab an ice cream. Something focused on getting to know each other. Plus, a simple date idea won’t intimidate her. [Read: How to ask a girl out when you’re a shy guy and do it with confidence]

6. Communicate with her

If you asked a girl to hang out already, then why not keep the communication going up until the date.

Talk to her when you see her, text her when apart. It helps relax both of you and creates a relationship. Therefore, when you meet up, it won’t be dead silence. [Read: A complete guide to texting before the first date]

7. When in doubt, hang out in groups

If you’re scared to ask the girl to hang out alone, try suggesting a group. Listen, if you think she likes you but is nervous, this is a good idea. This makes her feel more comfortable with the idea and relaxed since she has support around her.

You’ll also be able to see how she interacts with her friends and what her interests are as she’s more herself than on a one-on-one hang out.

8. Choose a place that’s convenient and open

Asking her over to watch a movie at your place isn’t going to happen.

First of all, she assumes all you want is a hook up. Second, you asked her out, so make an effort to actually go out with her instead of her driving to your house.

Pick a public place, it makes her feel more comfortable and shows her you respect her. [Read: How to talk to a girl – The secrets to smooth talk and impress girls]

9. There’s no right time

Whether you ask a girl to hang out today or in three weeks, it doesn’t matter. If you’re trying to figure when or how to ask a girl to hang out, there’s literally no right time to do it.

And, if you wait, you run the risk of someone else asking her out and stealing your chance. In other words, it’s time to man up and just take the chance. You can do it. [Read: How to ask your crush out – 15 steps to be cool, brave and confident]

10. If she says no, stop

If you ask her out once and she says no, okay, you can ask one more time. But if she says no after two asks, then stop.

Her saying no is because of three reasons: she’s busy, she doesn’t want to hang out with you, she’s a flake. Regardless of which, don’t waste your time waiting.

11. Keep it respectful

There are many men who, when asking a girl out, send a dick pic or ask them to send nudes. Listen, you may get a date out of it, we’re not going to say you won’t, but you’re not going to land yourself anything meaningful or worthwhile.

If you genuinely like a girl, speak to her in a respectful manner. Most girls don’t want to see a dick pic or send nudes. [Read: How to talk to women and capture their attention immediately]

12. Plan something fun to do

If the girl says yes to hang out with you, then congratulations! The hard part is over. But now you have to come up with something fun to do because you don’t want to bore her.

So, you don’t want to just ask her to come hang out at your place. Not only is this unexciting, she might think you just want to have sex with her. And that’s not a good message to send!

So, in the next section, we’ll give you some ideas for what to do when you hang out with her.

13. Accept rejection

You have to mentally prepare for the fact that she might say no. And that’s okay! Listen, everyone has been rejected many, many times—more times than they’d like to admit. But here’s the thing: it happens sooner or later. This has nothing to do with you.

She’s just not into you which is great actually. You save yourself the time and energy of hanging out with someone who wasn’t interested in seeing you in the first place. In the last section, we’ll talk about how to make yourself feel better if you get rejected.

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What to do when you hang out with her

Yay! You asked a girl to hang out with you, she said yes, but now what? How do you find something fun to do? Don’t worry, here are some ideas that will guarantee that you both will have a lot of fun.

1. Cook together

You don’t have to cook an elegant meal or anything, but it would be fun to make cookies together or some other yummy dessert. If you’re both comfortable visiting each other’s place, you could even start out by going on a grocery store run before you hang out with her.

2. Play a game

Not a lot of people play good old-fashioned board games these days. So why not go retro and play a fun game like Monopoly, checkers, or Uno? [Read: How to ask a person if they like you without embarrassing yourself]

3. Have a karaoke night

If you don’t have a karaoke machine, there are places you can find on the internet that will let you guys sing your hearts out together.

4. Try an arcade

Depending on where you live, there are many fun places you can go to play games. They can be video games or laser tag. Or maybe they even have some go-karts you can try.

5. Go to a movie

Ask her what kind of movies she likes, and let her pick one. Too many people watch movies on Netflix these days, so go out and watch one on the big screen for a change. It makes to more date-like and it’ll seem you’ve made a real effort to hang out with her. [Read: How to romance a woman – 37 ways to woo the girl of your dreams]

6. Take a dance class

Some people might think this is cheesy, but it can be really fun! Try salsa or learning the waltz. Dance lessons are great way to get close to a girl and hang out with her casually. No stress, just fun and an excuse to show off your moves as well!

7. Comedy club

Who doesn’t like to laugh? Going to a comedy club is a great way to enjoy yourselves and have a lot of fun.

8. Create your own cocktails

One of you should go over to the other’s place and bring a variety of alcohol and mixers. Get creative and come up with your own cocktails. [Read: How to behave on a first date – 28 tips to impress anyone instantly]

9. Take a hike

If you live somewhere around nature, it’s always nice to go out and be with the trees and the flowers. Take a scenic hike together somewhere.

10. Go to a psychic

Well, that’s a unique way to hang out with a girl, isn’t it? Find a person who reads tarot cards or does palm readings. Maybe they’ll tell you that you will ride off into the sunset with each other!

11. Try ziplining

Depending on how adventurous the two of you are, ziplining can be exhilarating and fun! But if she’s not into the daredevil kinds of things like that, then don’t push her. [Read: The best first date conversation -23 tips to impress in minutes]

12. Make playlists for each other

You can either make them together, or you can make them before you hang out. Then, you can center the whole night on exchanging your favorites in music.

13. Bowling

Unless you are a pro, most people probably don’t go bowling much anymore. Get competitive and see who is better at it!

14. Go to a bar and play pool

It’s always fun to grab a drink and a pool cue. It allows you to talk, drink, and have some fun playing pool. [Read: What to talk about on a first date to make them like you instantly]

15. Roller skating

Believe it or not, there are still a lot of skating rinks around. It might sound like something your parents did back in the 1970s or 1980s, but why not try your talent in a pair of skates?

16. Axe throwing

Axe throwing is growing a lot in popularity. You can probably find an axe throwing place pretty easily and see who is a better lumberjack.

17. Go to a zoo

If you’re near a big city, it’s always fun to walk around a zoo and see exotic animals. Most zoos are open all year, too. [Read: Does she like me? 17 signs she’s clearly interested in you]

How to feel better if she rejects you

So you know how to ask a girl to hang out, and you have a few great ideas for places to hang out. But sometimes, it doesn’t always work out the way you want it to. If you asked her to hang out and she said no, don’t worry. That’s just life. So, here are some tips for how to feel little better if she doesn’t want to hang out with you.

1. Don’t take it personally

There’s nothing wrong with you! It probably feels like it, because no one wants to be rejected. Actually, it’s her loss that she can’t see what a great guy you are! [Read: How to respond to a girl when she rejects you – 15 steps to be the bigger man]

2. Ask someone else to hang out

Just because this girl said no to you, that doesn’t mean that you can’t find another girl to hang out with you. And when you do, now you have all of the great ideas above that you can do with her! [Read: She rejected you but still acts interested? How to read her mind]

3. Keep talking to her anyway

It’s probably tempting to just kind of disappear if you’re embarrassed that she doesn’t want to hang out with you. But if you do, that will make you look not confident. So, act like it doesn’t matter to you that she said no. Keep talking to her like nothing ever happened.

[Read: What makes a man attractive? 38 traits that make women desire you]

Now that you know how to ask a girl to hang out, some ideas of what to do when you do hang out, and how to handle it if she says no, it’s time to implement these tips and land yourself some one-on-one time with her… or someone else better!

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