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Courting a Woman: The Chivalrous Guide to Treating a Lady Right

Want to woo a woman, or just show her what she means to you? It’s not too difficult. Just follow these tips on courting a woman and make her melt!

Courting a Woman

Sometimes it’s good to make your lady realize just how special she is. Whether it be the art of seduction, courting a woman, making her feel truly beautiful, or just showing her how thankful you are for having her in your life, there are some ways that you can make your woman feel like she is the most important thing in the world to you.

Courting a woman – What you need to know

Romance and love should always be shown, and if you have a great lady in your life, then don’t wait to tell her how you feel. It may be that you have been dating for years, or that you have seen her from afar and want to focus all your energy on making her yours.

Either way, follow these effective tips for courting a woman, and you will have your beautiful lady swooning in your arms in no time at all! [Read: The modern day gentleman’s guide to court a woman]

#1 Make a good impression. If you want to court a woman, then first things first – she needs to notice you. If she is as wonderful as you think she is, the chances are that other men will have seen that too. Make sure that you stand out from the crowd. Don’t be a wallflower – go up to her, talk to her, and start a conversation. [Read: How to impress a girl – 15 atypical secrets you need to know]

#2 Make her laugh. Humor can be very romantic. Now that you have her attention, it is important that you don’t lose it. So, you need to be able to engage her in witty and intelligent conversation. Otherwise, it will be easy for her to make excuses and leave.

If you can make her laugh, you are already winning. Women find men that can make them laugh extremely attractive. In fact, it routinely comes out high up on the list of what women look for in a man. So even if you are not that confident about the way you look, don’t give up.

If you are charming and funny, you could easily cast all the other competition aside. It is important to note here that nobody wants to feel as if they are talking to a stand-up comedian the first time that they meet them. Your conversation should be charming and witty rather than a tirade of “hilarious” one-liners. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile and like you instantly]

#3 Make her feel special. Most women want nothing more than to feel as though they are special. Make sure that she knows that she has your undivided attention. Don’t let your eyes wander, don’t look around, maintain eye contact, and don’t get distracted by other things such as your phone.

If she feels as though you are completely captivated by her beauty and conversation, she will feel treasured – and this will make her want to spend even more time with you. [Read: 14 small ways to make a girl feel special and loved]

#4 Ask her about herself. When courting a woman, it is important that you remember to take an interest in her, and while asking her questions about herself may not fall into the category of “sweeping her off her feet,” it is still important to make sure that you do.

Women want to feel listened to *don’t we all really?* so make sure that you not only ask her interesting and insightful questions, but really listen to her answers – and remember them – so you don’t end up asking her to repeat the same information at a later date.

#5 Compliment her. Of course, everyone loves compliments. So if you want to know how to court a woman right, make sure you remember to tell her how beautiful she is or that you love her dress. Be detailed in your compliments. That way, she will know that you are not saying them to every other woman who crosses your path and that you are truly honest in the way that you feel. [Read: 19 sweet compliments for girls that’ll make them go awww…]

#6 Be sincere. It is very obvious to a woman when a man is just going through the motions rather than actually feeling something true. Don’t think that you can pull the wool over a woman’s eyes by just being charming and flattering her at every given opportunity.

If you want to truly win her over, she needs to feel as though you are completely sincere. It is okay to not come across as a smooth and sophisticated gentleman. In fact, she will probably find it even more endearing and flattering if you reveal your nervous stuttering self just a little bit at least!

#7 Dress sharp. Women appreciate a man who makes an effort with his appearance. And especially if you are usually a jeans and t-shirt kind of guy, if you turn up for a date in a sharp suit, she’ll know you have done it just for her.

Naturally, if you are going to get anywhere with your woman, she’ll need to be attracted to you. So make sure you have bothered to look clean and presentable at the very least – she will appreciate it if it is obvious that you have bothered to dress up a little for her. [Read: How to be the “hot guy” – 20 rules to instant hotness]

#8 Wine and dine. Okay, so not every woman loves going to a fancy restaurant or drinking the finest champagne. The point here is that if you are courting a woman and want to truly impress her, and make her feel as though she is special, she needs to know that you have made an effort.

It won’t look great if you don’t put any thought into your date. This doesn’t necessarily mean spending lots of money. A sunset stroll and fish and chips on the beach can be just as romantic as a 5-course fine dining restaurant, as long as she feels you have done it because you think it’s something that she would love to do.

#9 Be surprising and spontaneous. There are many ways you can surprise a lady. This doesn’t necessarily mean showering her with expensive gifts! Doing something unexpected and romantic for your woman can earn you serious brownie points.

Have a lovely meal prepared for her when she gets home, send a bunch of flowers to her office, do a shout out for her on the radio, or just show up at her work to take her out for an unexpected, mid-week date. [Read: Top 50 really amazing first date ideas to wow your date]

Spontaneity also goes down a treat. Showing that you are adventurous is seriously attractive, and taking her on unexpected adventures – or even doing little spontaneous things – will show that you are putting the effort into your relationship and will make her feel all warm and fuzzy inside. [Read: Why courting a woman is way better than just dating her]

#10 Be confident. Nothing is sexier about the opposite sex than a confident person who knows what they want. If she feels as though you are the kind of man who is in control and always gets what he wants, this will be extremely attractive – particularly if you make it clear to her that what you want is her.

Remember, however, that while confidence is super hot, arrogance is a major turn off, so think more Dorian Gray than Donald Trump, and you’ll be just fine!

[Read: How to court a woman – 15 ways to do it like a classy gentleman]

Courting a woman is all about paying attention to what she wants and needs – not what YOU think she wants and needs. Just make her feel beautiful, cared for, special, and loved.

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Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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