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She Wants the D: 24 Signs She Wants to Spend the Night with You

You like her, you’ve been flirting all night, and you think she feels the same way. Before you make a move, find out if she wants the D and avoid a mistake.

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When you think about a woman wanting your “D,” most of the time you equate that to your dick. Makes sense, it’s not rocket science. However, the “D” stands for more than just that. If you want to be sure that she wants the D, in every way, you have to read the signs very carefully indeed.

Let’s look at it metaphorically. What she wants isn’t necessarily your penis. For sure, it’s a bonus, but she wants your masculine energy, which is what is drawing her attention.

If she really just wanted only the “D” then you could basically stand with your pants down to your ankles and let the ladies admire what you have and decide if they want the “D” or not.

But instead, you have to figure out if your masculine energy is something she’s interested in getting to know on an intimate level. If you’re not sure and you make a wrong move, you could easily end up with a very embarrassed, red face.

[Read: How to have a one-night stand – Your guide to hooking up right]

Why it’s important to properly read the signs she wants the D

Why is it so important to be sure? Well, you don’t want to make a pretty serious move on someone, especially a sexually charged one, if you’re not sure you’re on the same page.

In the best case scenario, she laughs at you and walks away. In the worst case? You seriously offend her. Neither are particularly great outcomes.

That’s why you need to learn body language and spot the signs that she’s deep into your male energy and wants to head home and explore it. If you have any doubt, you shouldn’t make that move. Seriously, save yourself the embarrassment and her the upset.

Of course, you could just come right out and ask her, but we know not many people are that brave either. [Read: Sleeping with someone new for the first time? 13 must-follow rules]

How to know for sure that she wants the D

Before you go chasing her around the club, you need to see if she’s interested in you. Women aren’t just about the physical, so even if she wants your dick, you are going to have to work for it. But here are some telltale signs that she wants the D.

1. She tells you so

This is possibly the easiest and best thing that could ever happen. If she comes up to you and tells you she wants to go home with you, well, you don’t need to decode anything. She’s demystified everything right away. [Read: The clearest words and signs she wants to sleep with you]

2. She asks you if you live alone

Yeah, she’s seeing if you have roommates or live at home with your mom. But why would she ask that? To see if it’s safe to go over to your place, silly – because she wants the D.

She’s very unlikely to ask you this question unless she has intentions to actually go to your place and get it on. Otherwise, why would she care if there was someone else there?

3. She can’t look at you without smiling

If she’s constantly smiling around you, it’s a good sign that she’s feeling positive and enjoying herself. If she’s flirting with you and is all smiles, then most likely she wants the D. But, don’t take a few polite smiles as confirmation. You need to see a few other signs before you make a solid decision. [Read: How to make a girl smile – 50 easy things you can do to make her happy]

4. She suggests a place you two should go to

“We should totally try that new restaurant out.” Aww, she said “we.” That’s cute.

It’s also a good sign that she’s interested in you. She wouldn’t say that unless she actually wanted to go out with you. If you can tick that box off, perhaps she will want more afterward?

5. She’s all about the physical contact

Is she stroking your arm? Touching your neck? Come on guys, people don’t touch people they don’t like. It’s called flirting, and she’s showing you she’s interested.

So, try mimicking her movements and see her reaction. If she isn’t into it, then pull back. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she likes you]

6. She texts you at night

Women like their beauty sleep. However, if she’s texting you after midnight, she’s thinking of you in a different context. You know… a sexual context.

However, don’t start sexting her. Let her open that topic up and then see where it goes from there. [Read: 20 dirty questions to text a girl and make her really wet in 15 minutes]

7. She runs her hand through her hair

Women always flip their hair and play with it when they’re around a guy they like. They want to subconsciously expose their neck, and it also shows that they want the person they’re interested in to do the same to their hair. Humans are strange creatures.

8. She notices the details

It’s all about the details, and she notices everything about you. If she notices that your ears are pierced or that you cut your hair, that’s a good sign that she wants the D. She’s paying attention to the small things, and if she didn’t like you, she wouldn’t care. [Read: How to make a girl want you and think of you sexually]

9. She doesn’t look at her phone

Nowadays, everyone is glued to their phone. However, if someone has their phone away and is completely into the conversation, then you know they’re interested. Unless, they keep going to the bathroom, you should know they’re texting, not going pee.

10. She always looks her best around you

Women will put extra effort into looking good if they’re meeting with a guy they like. She may never wear makeup. However, if she’s going on a date with a guy she likes, she’ll spend a couple of extra minutes putting on lip gloss. [Read: How girls flirt – 22 signs she’s more than just being nice]

11. The triangle gaze

This form of body language is a great way to nonverbally let her know you want to kiss her. If she doesn’t want you to kiss her, she won’t mirror you, and she’ll probably walk away.

Basically, after maintaining eye contact, you look down at her lips. She’ll look down at your lips and if you go in for it, she’ll either react positively or negatively. [Read: How to kiss a girl by subtle arousing her on a date]

12. She’s laughing

Your jokes might actually be hilarious, or they could suck. But she’s pulling through. If she’s always laughing at your jokes, she’s interested in you.

Does that mean she’ll sleep with you right away? No. But, it could mean that with a little extra time to get to know you, she may get to that point.

13. She sneakily asks the girlfriend question

Ah, yes. This is a classic. If she’s dropping some sort of, “Your girlfriend must love it!” type comment, it’s not because she cares or that she’s showing some kind of sisterly connection.

She wants to know your status to make sure you’re single and that she’s not wasting her time.

14. She shares her food with you

Many women won’t share their food with people they don’t like. So, if she’s telling you to have at her fries or take a bite of her burger, there’s a pretty good chance that she’s into you.

Again, it may not mean she wants the D straight away, but you could be on the right track. [Read: 27 signs a girl is attracted to you sexually and wants a lot more]

15. She brings up sexual topics

Unless she’s a sex columnist, girls don’t usually bring up sexual topics unless they’re interested in seeing your opinion on the subject. And women won’t talk about sex with men that they’re not interested in, unless it’s with a male friend. So she wants the D.

16. She compliments you

If she’s complimenting you on your hair or your cologne, she’s checking you out. If she wasn’t, she wouldn’t even notice these things. This doesn’t mean you have it in the bag, but it’s a good sign that she’s into you at least. [Read: 10 clear signs you should back off when pursuing a girl]

17. She asks for your contact information

She wants to get to know you and possibly see you another time. Which is a great sign that she’s interested in you. What more can we say? It’s flattering when a woman asks you for your number. It doesn’t happen every day, or does it? If so, you’re lucky!

18. She grabs the D

Well, if she literally grabs your junk and looks at you straight in the eye, we’re not sure what you’re still doing in the club. Of course, you have to confirm that this is what she wants. And if it’s consensual, then there’s no reason why you two shouldn’t get a taxi and head to your place.

However, you have to ask yourself whether you’re comfortable with a girl you hardly know grabbing your privates. Oh, in this case, you are? Okay then!

19. She kisses you

Now, this doesn’t mean that she’s going to sleep with you, but she’s testing the waters. The first kiss can either propel or eliminate the chances of you two hooking up.

She’s kissing you, seeing how it is, and figuring out if she wants more. So, you’d better make it a good kiss. [Read: The perfect first kiss – 22 tips to make it oh-so-amazing]

20. She asks you what you’re doing later

If she’s asking what you’re doing after, there’s a good chance she wants to be a part of it. Now, again, that doesn’t mean there’s going to be anything sexual going on but it does mean she wants to spend more time with you. That’s a good sign, right?

21. She’s licking and biting her lips

This is a solid flirting move. If she’s licking her lips and biting her lips, she’s trying to get you to look at them. By drawing attention to her lips, she’s flirting.

Let’s be honest, lips are pretty sexual, even if we do use them to talk. So, if she’s doing this, there’s a pretty good chance that she’s trying to feel the ground and see where this will go. [Read: Lip biting and the scientific explanation why it’s so sexy]

22. She tells you she’s horny

A girl is not going to come right out and tell you that she’s horny unless she would like to do something about it. Again, always make sure, but it’s a pretty solid sign that she wants the D.

She’s making it clear that she’s turned on, and if you’re the only one she’s talking to, that probably means that you’re doing the turning on! [Read: How to get a girl horny & make her wet just by sitting next to her]

23. She’s all about the sexy dancing

Some girls dance pretty flirtily anyway, but if she grabs you and starts grinding into you, what are you supposed to think? Again, it doesn’t mean anything definite, but it does show that she’s flirting with you and she’s being pretty sexual about it. Try your own sexy dancing and see how she responds. [Read: How girls grind with a guy they find sexy and interesting]

24. She says “your place or mine?”

Pretty self-explanatory, don’t you think?

If you’re seeing several of these signs, it’s pretty obvious that she wants the D. However, you always have to be sure. When you have confirmation by seeing these signs, then you can be pretty confident about coming out and asking her.

The signs take away the fear and you can be less worried about saying “hey, do you wanna come home with me?” That way, you’re asking for her consent and you’re being a decent human being.

She’ll respect you for that, and it makes another date all the more likely.

[Read: How to seduce a girl and make her want to get into bed with you]

If she’s showing all these signs, there’s a good chance that she wants the “D.” However, after you look at the signs, you’re going to have to make sure that’s what she really wants. Always ask for consent.

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