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I Need a Girlfriend: 15 Honest Questions and Tips To Consider First

If you’re thinking, I need a girlfriend, there are questions you should ask yourself first before dating someone. This is to know if you’re ready or not.

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It’s perfectly normal to keep thinking, I need a girlfriend, especially when you’ve been single for too long. However, before you go rushing into something you might not be ready for or you’re doing for all the wrong reasons, it’s important to ask yourself all the necessary questions first.

Just because you think, I need a girlfriend, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stop to consider why first. Because when you finally land yourself an unlucky gal, you might proceed to treat her like crap because you didn’t actually think your actions through to the end.

You thought having a girlfriend would be fun and entertaining, and while it can be, it’s also a lot of work. So before you find yourself a girlfriend, it really is crucial to know if you’re making the right decision.

[Read: How to get a girlfriend – The step-by-step guide to find and win over the hottest girl]

The benefits of having a girlfriend

Obviously, there are many reasons why guys get girlfriends because, well, they’re awesome! Girlfriends are an automatic friend when you need to talk, someone to please you in the bedroom, and company you really enjoy having around. [Read: Dating checklist: How to make one & why it can benefit your life]

When you’re in a pretty amazing relationship, your girlfriend can also be your best friend and confidant. In other words, it’s ideal to have a girlfriend, but that isn’t to say that being single can’t be as fun and satisfying.

It can be the most fulfilling experience when you have a girlfriend, but make sure you’re doing it for all the right reasons.

What are the wrong reasons for getting a girlfriend?

There are many reasons to get a girlfriend, but it should be for the right reasons.

First things first, you shouldn’t be doing it for the sake of fitting in with your friends. If all your friends have a partner and you’re just doing it to feel good about yourself, then you’re doing it for all the wrong reasons. You need to get a girlfriend because it’s what you personally want, and not just because you’re peer-pressured to do so.

Secondly, don’t just do it to get over someone you like. Rebound relationships are undoubtedly effective in helping you move on, but they won’t help you heal from the pain and heartbreak of your past relationship.

Thirdly, the most crucial aspect of all is, are you ready for one? Relationships are and always will be hard work so if you’re not prepared for that compromise and hard work, then you’d better not get into one *at least, not yet*. [Read: Not ready for a relationship? 7 legitimate reasons why it’s okay]

I need a girlfriend: The big things to consider first

When someone randomly thinks they need a girlfriend, it should be a red flag immediately. You can’t just randomly decide this and then go out and get yourself one. There are different factors you need to consider first.

If you’re thinking that you need a girlfriend – for whatever reason – you should think a few things through first. Here are all of the different things you should consider before going out and finding yourself a girlfriend.

1. Do you only want one because of your friends?

It’s relatively easy to want to have a girlfriend because all your friends have one. However, this is just a terrible idea because you aren’t in it for the right reasons. You can’t just commit to a relationship based on the fact that most of your friends did, especially if you’re not all that into the girl.

What happens when they break up with their girlfriends? Are you going to do the same? If you’re thinking, I need a girlfriend, and it’s because of peer pressure, then it’s best not to go through with it. You don’t always have to go with the crowd, you know? [Read: Fellas, this is why you seriously have never had a girlfriend so far!]

2. Are you just bored?

If you’re just bored with your life and don’t have enough entertainment going on, you don’t need a girlfriend. What you need, my friend, is a hobby. You need something to keep you busy and that’s not what a girlfriend is for.

Let’s assume you get into a relationship purely for boredom. In that case, it’s only a matter of time before you eventually get bored of her and find something else to entertain yourself with.

The truth is, relationships are a lot more than just having fun together. There are also not-so-fun moments with a girlfriend. [Read: 9 reasons why relationships are such hard work]

3. Do you have the time for a girlfriend?

Just because your friends have time for a girlfriend doesn’t mean you do. If you’re super busy with work and life, there’s no way you have the time to dedicate to a girlfriend. As we said, a girlfriend is also about sacrifice and hard work.

So if you can’t set time aside for her and provide her with her needs, you might not be ready for a girlfriend. This will cause so much drama in your relationship all because you refuse to give her the time she deserves and wants to spend with you. In other words, this will all backfire on you. [Read: Why does your girlfriend hate you? 10 questions to find out]

4. Do you know how to treat one right?

Girlfriends require a lot of care and attention and most of all, respect. If you don’t know how to show all of these to a girl, you could be heading down a road that you may not be able to go back from. If you don’t know how to properly treat a girl, you don’t need a girlfriend.

So before you start thinking, I need a girlfriend, and act on that thought, assess first if you can handle treating her right.

Not all girls are high-maintenance, but most of them do require your time, effort, and energy. So you can’t enter relationships halfway. [Read: How to be a good boyfriend – 33 big traits that matter most]

5. Are you willing to give up some freedom?

The difference between being single and in a relationship all comes down to the aspect of freedom. So if you’re thinking, I need a girlfriend, are you ready to give up at least a portion of your freedom? If you’re not ready to give up any part of the freedom you have, you’re not ready for a girlfriend.

If you’re not ready to let a girl know what you’re up to and where you’re going during the day, wait until you are. You can’t just do whatever you feel like doing, especially if you’re already committed to one girl.

So before you decide to get a girlfriend, make sure you’re willing to sacrifice your freedom for it. [Read: How to be independent even if you’re in a relationship]

6. Could you handle having a girl around your friends?

How do you feel about bringing a girl around your friends? You can’t keep your girlfriend separate from your friends and think she’ll be okay with that. She’ll get curious as to why, and she’ll be unhappy when she starts to think you’re embarrassed by her.

So if you can’t bring or introduce a girl to your friends, maybe you’re just not yet ready for a relationship. This is something you’re really going to have to be okay with if you really want a girlfriend as you think. [Read: 20 foolproof ways to tell if you’re a serial womanizer]

7. You do realize it’s more than just sex, right?

Sex is pretty normal in a relationship, but it shouldn’t be the only reason you get into a relationship. So if this is your only reason for doing so, it’s better not to get a girlfriend. If you just want a girlfriend for the fun times in the bedroom, you don’t need one.

You have to put in a lot more effort than just getting her off in bed in order to make her happy. If you can’t handle this reality, maybe a girlfriend isn’t really what you need. [Read: 20 things you HAVE to do to keep your girlfriend happy]

8. When was the last time you had a girlfriend?

Think about when the last time you had a girlfriend was. If it was a really long time ago, ask yourself why. What has held you back from getting a girlfriend and is that thing still going on? If you JUST had a girlfriend like a week ago and think getting a new one right away is the way to go, you’re wrong.

Take some time to be single and know yourself before jumping into another relationship right away. Even if rebound relationships can be pretty tempting, it’s not a good idea to do so. [Read: What is a rebound relationship? 12 ways to know you’re in one]

9. Are you 100% over your ex?

A lot of guys like to have rebound girlfriends just like girls have rebound boyfriends. It’s something we think can mend our hearts and get us over our exes. But the truth is, it can’t. But if you keep thinking, I need a girlfriend, it all comes down to getting over your ex.

Remember what we said about starting relationships for all the wrong reasons? If you’re still somewhat in love with your ex, that’s not a reason to date someone new.

Beginning a relationship while you’re still in love with someone else only leads to trouble and conflict down the road. [Read: How to forget about a girl – 15 ways to forget she even exists]

10. Are you ready to share your life with someone?

Ultimately, that is what a relationship is. Are you ready to have someone else intervene in nearly every aspect of your life? Are you really ready to make that kind of commitment?

Getting a girlfriend is a big commitment not to be taken lightly. So, if you seriously want to be in a relationship, you need to be emotionally and mentally ready before doing so. [Read: What does a healthy relationship look like? The full guide to have one]

Tips for getting a girlfriend

So now that we’ve talked about the questions to ask if you’re thinking, I need a girlfriend, if your mind is still made by this point, let’s take a look at the things you must know before getting a girlfriend. Really, it’s not as hard as you think!

1. Get yourself out there

If you don’t get yourself out there, how else will you find yourself a girlfriend? After you’ve decided that you’re doing this for all the right reasons, getting a girlfriend is now your next step!

You’ll only be able to do this if you have the courage and guts to get yourself out in the dating scene again. It’s going to be scary, but it’ll also be worth it. [Read: How to talk to your crush – The secrets to make them fall for you]

2. Be confident enough

If you’re constantly thinking, I need a girlfriend, the only way to make that your reality is to be confident enough. This means that any approach to her will all depend on how confident you are.

So this also goes for asking her number, flirting with her, and building a connection with her – which brings us to our next point. [Read: 9 subtle differences between a confident & arrogant man]

3. Build a connection with her

Girls don’t care much for physical attraction if your personality and mindset aren’t attractive enough. So if you want to have a girlfriend, then build a connection with her. Find out her interests, and you might find something in common you both like!

Also, don’t just compliment her physical attributes and appearance, but also her personality and non-superficial traits. Most importantly, get her number or connect with her on social media so you can continue to text her even when you’re away. [Read: How to text a girl for the first time – 20 tips to make a very good impression]

4. Find the right opportunity to ask her on a date

If you find one specific girl you’re eyeing on, everything you do thereon should be focused on asking her on a date. Of course, it doesn’t stop there, but that’s the first step that can lead you to become more than just friends or acquaintances, but something more.

Everything depends on how well that date goes if you want to potentially have a relationship with her. [Read: 15 best ways to ask a girl out and warm her up to a definite yes]

5. Make her give you her heart

When a girl gives you her heart, it’s game over for other guys trying to win her heart. This means she’s interested in nobody else but you. This should be your end goal, but all your efforts shouldn’t stop here.

Consistency is very attractive in a man and even when you have her, don’t stop treating her like a queen.

[Read: How to be the best boyfriend you can ever be and better yourself overnight]

So, do you need a girlfriend?

Having a girlfriend isn’t the most essential thing in life, but it certainly feels amazing when you do have one. They won’t just be your significant other but also your best friend and partner in life.

A girlfriend is someone who can understand you better than anyone else, but make sure you’re doing it for all the right reasons.

Having a girlfriend can be a really great, fun, exciting thing, but only if you’re ready. So if you’re constantly thinking, I need a girlfriend, make sure you’re not doing it for the wrong reasons.

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