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30 Ways to Please a Woman & Get Her Addicted Sexually & Emotionally

By learning how to please a woman, you’ll keep the lady in your life happy and keep your relationship ticking along nicely. Here are some tips.

how to please a woman emotionally and sexually

You might have heard the saying “happy wife, happy life,” but it’s actually far more than that. For sure, if the lady in your life is happy, everything is easier. But, you need to make sure that your needs are also being met. Relationships are two-way deals and without both partners being happy with what’s going on, it’s doomed to fail. But, from your point of view, you might want to know how to please a woman to make sure that you’re doing everything right.

It’s important to remember that every woman is different. What may please one, may not please another!

For sure, that doesn’t make your life any easier, but a little general knowledge is always useful. So, if you want to know how to please the lady in your life both emotionally and sexually, you’ve come to the right place. [Read: How to be a good boyfriend – 33 ways to make you the best one ever]

Pleasing your woman and your relationship

Happy partners make for happy relationships. If you have friends who are in perfectly happy relationships, chances are, they’re happy with each other.

Happy couples don’t just make an effort to keep the relationship happy. Instead, happy couples take pleasure in keeping the relationship happy.

If you’re truly in love with your girl, looking for ways to please her won’t seem like a chore to you. Instead, it’ll feel like a fun hobby, just like spending time on your Xbox, or whatever you do for fun.

So if you’re keen on looking for new ways to keep your woman happy, well, good for you. If all partners in the world were like you, we’d have a lot more love and happiness in every relationship, wouldn’t we?! [Read: 25 things that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise when she sees a guy]

Love and relationships are a trial and error kind of thing. Sometimes, it takes experience to read the opposite sex better. And at other times, it takes a better understanding of the opposite sex.

If you want to know how you can please a woman you love, learn to understand her needs. In bed. And everywhere else.

As long as you make a happy effort to keep your girl happy, she too will make an effort to keep you happy. And before you know it, you’ll be in a perfect relationship that’s overflowing with love and wide smiles!

It’s kind of win-win all around. [Read: 30 relationship rules and must-know tips to live your best love life]

How to please a woman emotionally

For women, everything starts and ends in the mind, be it sex, love, or how they dress. So let’s talk about how to please a woman emotionally first, before we head to the sexaul ways below.

If you want to please a woman, you need to start by understanding her mind and making her feel like she has a warm and special place in your mind and in your heart. [Read: 15 really sexy ways to turn a girl on and excite her mind]

Use these tips on how to please a woman emotionally to warm the cockles of her heart, make her happier, and fall more in love with you.

1. Don’t ogle other women

One of the things all girls find disrespectful is when her man stares at another woman when he’s around her. If it’s just a passing glance at a girl who’s wearing something revealing, well, your secure girlfriend may have a laugh about it.

But if your constant embarrassing stares at other girls bothers her and makes her feel insecure, well, that’s just not good.

For starters, don’t even look at other women sitting at another table when you’re with your girlfriend. Once she’s secure enough, she’ll probably point out attractive or skimpily dressed girls to you herself! [Read: 25 biggest dating turn offs for all women they absolutely hate]

2. Make her feel special

If you want to please a woman, always make her feel special and wanted when she’s with you. Never make her feel like an accessory in your arm. Don’t take decisions on her behalf.

In everything you do when you’re with her, ask for her suggestions and let her know that her opinions matter to you.

3. Have conversations that matter

Communicate with your girlfriend or wife and let her know what’s on your mind. Every now and then, ask her about her own life, be it about her work, her future plans, or what she’s been doing all day.

Sharing our thoughts on daily lives with a special someone gives more meaning to our lives and to the relationships we’re in. [Read: Perfect things to talk about in a perfect relationship]

4. Involve yourself in her life

Play an active role in your woman’s life. If she’s having a hard time deciding on something, pay genuine attention to it, find out all you can about it, and help her make a good decision about it.

Participate in her plans and her goals in life when she asks you for help. When you help your woman make up her mind, she’ll feel more protected and secure about her future because she’d realize that she can always count on you for any help or decision-making.

5. Give her an extra hand

Be the support your woman needs when you’re with her. If you find her struggling with something, offer her a helping hand to assist her. Don’t be lazy around her, and don’t think twice before offering your help.

If you were in her place, wouldn’t you appreciate it if your girl offered to help you with something? Always put yourself in her shoes and try to do everything you can to keep her happy. [Read: 50 really cute things to say to your girlfriend and make her smile]

6. Surprise her

Happy surprises are never ever boring. If you want your woman to feel loved and pleased with you all the time, learn to create magical memories that’ll make her smile each time she thinks of you.

Don’t forget her special days, however insignificant the occasion may be to you.

7. Protect her

To a woman, there’s nothing more important than a man’s protective instinct. Every girl wants to date a guy around whom she can feel safe and secure.

Pay attention to her needs and always be willing to step up to the occasion when she needs any kind of help. You won’t just please her, you’ll help her realize what a fabulous catch you really are. [Read: 20 things girls look for in a guy before falling for him]

8. Be affectionate

If you know girls, you know they’re more touchy-feely than guys. As a guy, you may feel awkward about holding hands, cuddling or sharing an occasional hug. But to a girl, the touch of a close friend or a lover makes the relationship feel more meaningful and loving.

If you want to please her, learn to make her feel loved and special when she’s with you. Hold her hands while crossing the street or while sitting in a café, touch her now and then for no reason at all, and let her know that you can’t keep your hands off her.

Even if she brushes your hand off, she’ll still blush on the inside knowing how irresistible you think she is! [Read: How to show affection in a relationship when it doesn’t come naturally]

9. Be chivalrous

Chivalry may have been a code of the knights, but luckily for chivalrous men, it’s also something that can make a huge difference when it comes to knowing how to please a woman, sexually or emotionally.

Treat your woman chivalrously and let her see that she’s the most important part of your life. Make her feel like a princess when she’s with you, and give her all your attention and pamper her often. She’ll definitely be pleased with you. [Read: The rules and code of modern chivalry for men]

10. Respect her

Your woman may love you, care a lot for you and think she’s lucky to have you. And yet, she could be unhappy in the relationship if you don’t respect her and her opinions.

To all humans, respect is one of the integral aspects that give us self-confidence and meaning in life.

Do you really take your woman and her opinions seriously? Do you genuinely look to her for advice and help? If you want to please your woman and see her happy, learn to treat her with respect. If you can’t respect your woman, chances her, you won’t be able to have a perfectly happy relationship with her.

Take her more seriously and listen to what she has to say. After all, there’s no greater way to please a woman than by letting her know that you have enormous respect for her and her thoughts. [Read: 15 signs of a lack of respect in a relationship you can’t ignore]

How to please a woman sexually

Giving a woman a mind-blowing orgasm—whether you are in a loving relationship or not—is not only great for her, but is going to make you feel pretty pleased with yourself. Give these awesome tricks a try to make foreplay and sex a fantastic experience for you both.

Now you know how to please a woman emotionally, you also need to add in a few sexual moves too. By keeping her happy on both sides, you’ll boost your efforts in a big, big way! [Read: Why is sex important in a relationship?]

1. Teach yourself about sex in general

The only way to truly figure out how to please a woman in bed is if you genuinely understand how the female body works. That way, you know where and what the clitoris is and does, you know the sensitivity of the nipples, and the erogenous zones.

The more you know about sex, sex health, and communication, the better it is for you. [Read: 24 sex tips for men that’ll make any woman crave for a lot more]

2. Take your time

Start off slowly—and we mean really slowly. Gently stroke her legs, right from the tips of her toes all the way up her thighs, kiss her legs, and, if you are brave, and provided she is not super ticklish, of course slowly suck her toes to leave her writhing in ecstasy and begging you for more.

3. Ask her what she likes

No two women are the same, and communication is key to great sex. Asking her what she likes, and what she wants you to do to her, is the easiest way of knowing where her pleasure zones are. [Read: 3 sexy and easy ways to get what you want in bed]

Be specific. Does she like you touching her lightly, or hard? Does she want you to go fast or slow? Make sure you are listening to what she is saying and make sure you make her feel comfortable enough to speak up, whether you do it before you start or in the moment.

Similarly, you can find out what her no-go areas are—for example, some women might love you pulling their hair, while others may find this painful and slightly aggressive—so make sure you find out before you do it.

Women appreciate a guy who cares about her pleasure during sex, so even if she might be shy, encouraging her to let you know is sure to go down well. [Read: How to get your partner to open up about sex and share her desires with you]

4. Let her know how much you love turning her on

If she feels like you are just going through the motions during foreplay, and are bored or simply doing it as a favor before the main event, it isn’t going to work.

She wants to feel as though you are enjoying it and getting into it, too, so make sure she knows how much you are enjoying yourself. That way, she can relax and enjoy it, too.

5. Slow and steady wins the race

OK, so most men know that by stimulating the clitoris, you are going to give your woman some serious pleasure. However, it’s a sensitive little thing and by touching, licking, rubbing, or nibbling it too forcefully, you are likely to cause your woman some discomfort. Not exactly what you are going for!

Start off gently and pay it attention for a minute or so before moving somewhere else. This will build up tension, and with it, you can increase the pressure, back off again, and repeat, until she is crying out for you to keep going. [Read: Slow sex – Steamy reasons slow passionate sex is the best sex ever]

6. Foreplay is a must

We know guys get excited and want to go right into penetration but you need to slow it down.

Men and women are different in this part as it takes longer for women to become aroused than it does for men. This is a huge problem as many men assume that women get turned on exactly like them.

If you want to turn her on, focus on the foreplay. [Read: What is foreplay? 17 super hot moves to make any girl completely wet]

7. Use the figure-eight trick

If you are giving her oral sex, the best way to drive her wild is by tracing your tongue in a figure-eight around her clit. Alternate this with increasingly firmer licks, stimulating the clitoris itself.

If you consistently vary the pressure and motion, it will drive her wild, for sure. Want to know more tricks? Use this guide on how to eat pussy and the 18 tongue moves to blow her mind.

8. Don‘t neglect the less obvious erogenous zones

Some guys think by focusing on the vagina, they are working their magic. However, there are plenty of other ways to get your woman super turned on, and these should not be ignored.

Kissing her neck, nibbling her earlobes, and gently caressing, stroking, and nibbling on her nipples are all areas that will make her totally horny, so make sure you pay attention to these, too!

9. Experiment with different positions

Many women find it difficult to achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone… but that doesn’t mean it is impossible.

Have fun with sex and try out loads of different positions. Penetrate her at different angles, take it slow, and ask her what feels good. You can also use your hands during intercourse to stimulate her clitoris to help her get there. [Read: 10 different sex positions to spice it up and add a bang in bed]

10. Make it last

While it is actually a myth that girls long for hour-long sex sessions each time, they’ve got stuff to be getting on with, too, you know you also don’t want to be winning races for your speed in the sack.

If you are worried about getting off too early, make sure you focus on how you feel before you are about to orgasm, and not right at the last minute, when there is pretty much nothing in the world that can stop you!

When you start feeling those more subtle sensations, slow it down, or switch positions to make sure you last a bit longer. [Read: 20 moves to last way longer in bed without any difficulty]

11. Don‘t forget the simple stuff

Many sexual encounters start off with a kiss, but 10 minutes later and all that mushy stuff is forgotten as you get down to it.

Women actually respond really well to great kissing. Intense, passionate kisses will make her feel more connected to you, so make sure you remember to keep it up throughout.

12. Compliments, compliments!

Make sure you give a girl compliments. You will see a dramatic change in how much she enjoys sex.

Ladies need reassurance in the sack as much as the rest of us, so not only do you need to tell her how good she looks and how much she turns you on, you also need to let her know how great it is when she initiates sex or goes to town on you.

Afterward, tell her how good she is in bed, or what she did that was awesome; knowing this will boost her confidence and make her feel more relaxed and willing to try new things next time. [Read: 35 dirty things to say to a girl to leave her wet with desire]

13. Toys, porn, and talking dirty

If you think that you and your lady are in a bit of a sexual rut, why not introduce some fun, new elements into the bedroom?

There is a huge range of sexual aids available nowadays, so why not talk about what you both might like? You don’t have to turn all Dorian Grey on her straightaway, but discussing what you want to try and shopping together can be a turn-on in and of itself. [Read: How to talk dirty to a girl without turning her off]

14. It takes two

A common complaint in the female community is how their partners have sex with them like a rabbit. It’s quick, fast, and the guy is the only one who cums.

If you want to learn how to please a woman in bed, genuinely care about the experience she’s having. Sex isn’t just about you and getting you off, she’s also in the picture as well.

Focus on her, trust us, it pays off. [Read: How to make sure the woman orgasms as well – 15 tricks to master as a guy]

15. Orgasming is pretty nice

But you don’t want to pressure her to have one. We know you want to make her orgasm because that’s usually the goal for every guy. If she doesn’t orgasm, don’t push it, making it feel like she has to. If that happens, she won’t orgasm.

An orgasm is connected to her mental state, so she needs to feel relaxed and aroused. If she’s not achieving an orgasm, maybe it’s time you looked at your techniques.

16. Use your hands

You have two of them, so you have a great advantage. Now, sex isn’t just about the penis, it’s more than that. Use your hands to explore her body.

Actually, you should be using your whole body to have sex–lips, teeth, tongue–don’t be scared to gently bite her earlobe or lick her neck. At the same time, you can grab and squeeze her ass or breasts. See? The hands come in handy. [Read: How to finger a girl – 10 fingering techniques to make her orgasm]

17. Oral sex

Now, oral sex is becoming mainstream which is great as women also deserve to have that performed on them. It can be done during foreplay or sex and arouses her even more.

It’s not unusual for women to orgasm during oral sex, you just need to get the technique right. [Read: Cunnilingus pro – 16 tips to use your tongue and blow her mind]

18. Make sure you relax too

If you’re not relaxed, the sex isn’t going to be as good as it could be. You and your partner want to break down those insecurities and negative thoughts and just be in the moment.

If you’re not relaxed, you’re going to miss out on what the sex could have been like. There’s no need to feel pressure and stress, sex is literally supposed to relieve that.

19. Release each other’s fantasies

Your brain is one of the most active organs during sex. That’s right, it’s not your penis. So, feed your brain and indulge in your fantasies.

Whether you act them out or they go on in your head, sex is about freedom, so let your thoughts go wild. [Read: 12 arousing sex fantasies to try in real life]

20. Don’t body shame

Women are very sensitive about their bodies, and there’s a lot of pressure on them to look a certain way. This affects the way they have sex as they may refrain from certain positions because of how they feel about their breasts, thighs, or stomach.

Though you’re not responsible for her insecurities, help make her feel comfortable. Tell her what you love about her body. When she feels vulnerable, use that moment to compliment her.

Learning how to please a woman covers emotional and sexual fields. But, you can have fun in all areas and make sure that your relationship becomes a happy and enjoyable experience for both of you.

[Read: The top 50 wildest kinky ideas to try at least once in your lifetime with your lover]

Learning how to please a woman sexually and emotionally is never a waste of time. It’s something you should know and practice regularly. By doing so, you’ll have a happy relationship on both sides.

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