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Attention Men: 9 Things You Must Do More Often

Think you’re the perfect boyfriend? Check out what girls wish their guys would do more often, and you may be surprised where you’re lacking!

9 things men must do more often

So, you think you’ve got all your bases covered with your girlfriend. You do it all: paint her toenails, snuggle in bed, text her daily… What could you possibly be missing? It’s not that your girlfriend is being greedy per se, it’s all about what makes your girl feel extra special, and what she can brag to her friends about.

Remember, the more you do for her, the more wonderful she thinks you are, and the more brownie points you bag from the situation. Your girlfriend loves raving about you to her girlfriends and let’s face it, you’re already pretty awesome, so why not give her something extra to gloat about this month?

What should guys do for their girlfriends more often?

Whether you deserve the boyfriend of the year award or you’re just a regular guy looking to spoil your girl, here are some of the things your girl wishes you’d set aside the time to do.

#1 Oral. This is a no-brainer, and there’s a reason it’s at the top of the list. While some girls take both full advantage and enjoyment out of every opportunity they get to blow you, most of them are just giving in order to receive. So don’t leave her hanging! And don’t be a baby about it.

Yes, it takes a long time. Yes, your tongue is getting tired, but just remember she’s done the same for you – fighting gag reflex, squirting liquids, bad tastes, and swollen, sore lips. Going down on you is no walk in the park, either. So man up and make your woman scream. [Read: 8 tips and tricks for giving her oral sex like a pro]

#2 Be present after sex. Are you the type of guy who rushes to get his penis out of his girlfriend after the deed is done, or do you seem to fall asleep after you’ve got your jollies? Well, sir, this would fall under something your girlfriend wishes you would do less of.

She’s not asking you to sit around for an hour after sex to chit chat about your feelings, but try laying with her for 5 or 10 minutes afterwards before going off to dreamland, and see how much her demeanor changes with you. Girls love guys, girls love sex, and because women have a more emotional connection with sex, they like to be with you right after and bask in how awesome you are. It’s a compliment, so take it! [Read: 16 non-sexual touches to feel more connected]

#3 Pay attention to her. Whether she’s a clinger or an independent woman, there is no mistaking that women love attention, and there’s nothing that irks her more than you making plans for your guys night and leaving her out of it. Even if she’s not the type who wants to hang out with your homeboys, simply asking if she wants to come along may be enough for her.

Other than this, you can also pay more attention to her whenever she’s saying something. Yes, yes, she may tend to repeat herself, but even then, giving her your full attention, or at least responding to her, would be enough to make her feel like she matters to you.

#4 Clean. Do you live with your girlfriend? If so, then odds are she’d be jumping with joy if you cleaned up around the house more. You both work, you both have long days, and guess what? Nobody likes doing dishes, mopping, dusting, or cleaning out the kitty-litter. So why not bite the bullet, gain some brownie points, and start doing some chores without her having to ask you to?

#5 Be romantic. Don’t worry, she’s not expecting your life to turn into some kind of Nicholas Sparks novel, *especially because those usually end in a death, or something terrible happening!*, but she does want romance in her life. Even if she says she doesn’t, trust me, she does.

Bring home surprise flowers once in a while, cook dinner, run a bubble bath for her, go on a late night walk on the beach, or go for a romantic drive listening to oldie classics like Sinatra and Billie Holiday. Doing this gets you tons of sexy brownie points, and she gets to brag to her friends about having the world’s best boyfriend. Win, win! [Read: 25 romantic ideas to make her melt]

#6 Watch campy TV shows with her. She knows that she watches bad or stereotypically girly TV shows. Has your girl ever sat through a football game, action movie, or anything with Seth Rogen in it? Then throw her a bone and consider some of her picks.

Watching reruns of Sex and the City, The Hills, Jerseylicious, Gilmore Girls, Gossip Girl or America’s Next Top Model and dragging you to movies like The Fault in Our Stars will have her going ballistic with glee. Who knows, you might end up enjoying it, or at least you won’t be too behind on pop culture.

#7 Cook her breakfast. I gave you an easy one – I didn’t even say dinner! Women love a man who cooks. There’s just something about it. A boyfriend once cooked pancakes for breakfast after the first night I’d slept over. They were completely burned on the outside and mushy in the inside and I ate them anyway. Why? Because it was the sweetest, most romantic thing he could have done. Even if your meal is a flop, she’ll love you for trying.

#8 Hang out with her friends and family. There’s nothing more off-putting than a boyfriend who’s completely unwilling to be social. It puts your girlfriend in an awkward position with both her family and her friends. No matter how many nice stories your girlfriend tells to try to cover your backside, you never wanting to see these people will eventually make them think you’re a selfish jerk. Don’t be that guy for the woman you love.

#9 Give her a Hollywood kiss. Every girl needs to experience at least 3 Hollywood Kisses in her life. How do you do this? There are three options for the Hollywood kiss, all completely doable for you!

Option 1. Kiss her in the rain. How very romantic! Want to make this move even hotter? Try pushing her up against the side of a building or a tree and passionately planting one on her.

Option 2. The WWII kiss. While something with “world war” in the title doesn’t exactly promise romance, this one is sure to please. Follow suit of the classic V-J Day photograph by Alfred Eisenstaedt of a sailor kissing a woman in Times Square, grabbing her by the waist, bending her over and planting a big one on her.

While the woman in the photo wasn’t pleased by the random kiss, your girlfriend will be. Why? It’s extremely romantic to show your affections so brazenly in public.

Option 3. The mid-fight kiss. Have you ever gotten so riled up while you’re fighting that you’ve just wanted to rip her clothes off and give in to the heat of the moment? Do it, but only if you are fighting about something trivial! Instead of arguing over why you left the seat up or why she’s hogging the remote, walk up to her and give her a long, passionate kiss that’s sure to end in some hot and heavy love-making. [Read: 12 foolproof kissing tips to get her weak in the knees]

Girls ask for plenty of things from men, so let us say that even without all these suggestions, you’re doing a good job. You put up with our PMSing, the smell of our nail polish, our obsession with YouTube beauty gurus and our makeup collection. With a little romantic pick-me-up, you’re sure to further benefit your girlfriend, and yourself.

Whether your girl is feeling down or she’s just her usual old self, give some of these tips a try. These sweet little gestures can be the key to making her fall in love with you all over again!

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