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30 Alpha Male Characteristics That Make You a Real Alpha

Every guy wants to be the alpha. Read these 30 good and bad alpha male characteristics and find out if you have these traits of an alpha male in you.

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There are different kinds of men in the world.

But the alpha male always stands outside and above the rest of them.

So why is an alpha male so enigmatic and yet, so elusive?

All guys dream of being an alpha, but hardly a few actually have the traits it takes to be him.

[Read: What it takes to be a real man the way he should be]

Who is the alpha male?

In the animal kingdom, the alpha male of a pack is the one with the most brute strength and courage.

But in a man’s world, an alpha male is more than just that.

To put it simply, an alpha male is a man who wants to survive more than anyone else.

He wants to lead life to the fullest, and achieve all that he hopes to achieve.

But that doesn’t mean he’ll survive better than anyone else or achieve more than anyone else.

Evolution’s lessons for the mortal men

If there’s one thing evolution has taught us, it’s a life saving lesson on how to be cowards. [Read: Do girls like shy guys who don’t make a bold move?]

The instinct to hold on to stability in our lives is the one thing that keeps all males safe and sound, even if they lead simpler lives. And that’s the one primal instinct an alpha male doesn’t know!

And that’s also the biggest alpha male characteristic. He doesn’t know how to survive, he only know how to live.

The 20 characteristics of an alpha male

Every guy can’t be an alpha male even if he tries. It takes more than a lesson on life skills to become that guy.

It’s true, an alpha male can get the girl he wants if he pursues her because girls are somehow fascinated by reckless men. But do you really want to be that guy? [Read: Things that turn a girl on sexually about a guy]

Use these 20 characteristics of an alpha male to find out if you’ve got that reckless maniac in you.

#1 Strength. An alpha male is strong. If he doesn’t have brute strength, he has loads of mental strength to think under pressure.

#2 A leader. An alpha male is always a leader. He doesn’t try to be one, he instinctively takes the lead when the circumstances arrive his way.

#3 Will to win. He has the will to win, and will do anything it takes as long as he gets what he wants. He always tries to be the last man standing.

#4 Ambitious. He’s a dreamer and is full of ambitions. He doesn’t think small, and is full of ideas that other people haven’t begun to comprehend.

#5 Competitive. An alpha male is extremely competitive, and takes immense pleasure in winning over his rivals.

#6 Charismatic. He’s charismatic, but not necessarily charming. He inspires everyone around him and awes people through his dreams and ideas. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]

#7 Challenging. He doesn’t shy away from challenges. In fact, he always goes looking for challenges.

#8 Confident. An alpha male doesn’t mind silence in a conversation because he’s not nervous. He’s extremely confident and doesn’t need anyone else’s approval for anything.

#9 Rule breaker. He doesn’t follow rules and he paves his own path whenever he sees an opportunity. Almost always, he makes his own fortune using his own means.

#10 Inspiration. An alpha male inspires others, and almost all men he meets want to be more like him. He’s a role model, and all guys either hate him or envy him.

#11 Ingenuity. He’s smart, be it street smart or book smart.

#12 Optimistic. Optimism oozes out of every orifice of his. He’s extremely optimistic and is always convinced that what he’s doing is the right thing and the right way.

#13 Protective instinct. His protective instinct is always on. He’s alert and aware of what’s going on around him all the time. [Read: The right way to deal with your girl’s angry ex boyfriend]

#14 Calculative. An alpha male knows his plans. He knows what he’s doing, and approaches his goals with a reckless and yet, calculative mind.

#15 Egotism. His ego is unaffected by the opinion of others. He doesn’t care what other people think of him because he thinks he’s above mere mortals.

#16 He draws people. Every other guy and girl wants to be around him. He draws people with his ideas and his visions, or with his dreams.

#17 Risk taker. What others would call mad recklessness, he calls it his life. An alpha male loves taking risks, especially when he believes that it would work in his favor.

#18 Focus. An alpha male is very focused with his ideas. His determination pushes him through adversities.

#19 He creates his destiny. An alpha male writes his own fate. He doesn’t believe in fate and has a high internal locus of control. He believes that any events in his life are a result of his own actions.

#20 He’s dependable. An alpha male is a solution finder. He’s dependable and a workhorse, and won’t rest until he’s convinced he has what he needs. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys finish last all the time]

The 10 dark traits of an alpha male

An alpha male does have a lot of fascinating and impressive positive traits. And that’s what makes him so desired and awed. But as with anything that has an extremely positive side, there’s also a negative and dark side.

Read these 10 dark characteristics of an alpha male to find out more about the dark side of an alpha mind.

#1 Arrogance. With a lot of confidence, unfortunately, comes arrogance. Alpha males are very arrogant, even if they don’t reveal this trait to the rest of the world. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]

#2 Intense rivalry. The will to win of an alpha male almost always turns into rivalry. Like in a death match, an alpha male takes all pitfalls and challenges personally, and that can cloud his better judgment.

#3 Perfectionist. An alpha male is a perfectionist and ends up demanding perfection from everyone around him. He can be very unforgiving when others around him don’t match up to his level of perfection.

#4 Bullheaded. He can be very stubborn when he truly believes in something, even if he’s completely wrong.

#5 Perseverance. He doesn’t know when to stop pursuing something because he’s so overly confident about his own abilities. He may achieve what he wants, but the journey may drain him. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you without even talking to her]

#6 Ruthlessness. Anything that comes in the way of an alpha male’s pursuit, he tries to eliminate it.

#7 Recklessness. His desire to win may be so intense, that he may end up turning himself into a reckless madman who doesn’t weigh the odds before doing something.

#8 Dominating. Alpha males can be very dominating, to the point where others could fear him or get frustrated with his behavior. [Read: 13 annoying boyfriend traits and how to avoid them]

#9 Apologies. An alpha male is unapologetic if he assumes he’s right.

#10 Pressure. He thrives under pressure and loves it. Even if it takes a toll on his health or the wellbeing of others around him, he continues to live life on the edge.

[Read: 15 things girls look for in a guy to fall for him]

As awesome as an alpha male may seem, it’s not something all men can be. You now know the real alpha male characteristics, so what do you think? Do you have the alpha male in you?

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Keith Brown
With a penchant for downing more energy drinks than is sane, Keith Brown is a bartender and amateur mixologist who geeks about superheroes and spends way too mu...
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