18 Pros and Cons of Dating a Nerdy Girl You Need to Know

Planning on asking a nerdy girl out for a date? Before you do, take a look at what you’re getting into and whether or not you’re ready for the real deal.

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For the purpose of this feature, let’s define what a nerd is. The original definition states a nerd is a derogatory term aimed at someone who is highly intellectual, socially inept and physically unattractive.

Recently, there’s been a tremendous upheaval in the definition of the term “nerd.” With the rise of tech and its savvy geniuses who grew up being called nerds in a negative way, they are now being hailed as nerds with the highest regard.

The new definition of a nerd for us here at LovePanky is: Someone who is extremely passionate about honing their skills in order to make a difference in their community or the world. A nerd is eager to learn and share that knowledge with like-minded people, i.e. not just fellow nerds, but anyone who is willing to learn.

Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook, recently made a quip out of the term on a Facebook post, saying people should strive to be nerds in order to make the next successful invention, instead of striving to date nerds.

Dating a nerdy girl – What you need to know

Nerdy girls come in all shapes, sizes, and different backgrounds. They can be nerds in a specific area like science and tech, while others might be dubbed as nerds in a community of artists and entertainers.

Nerdy girls are everywhere! Your mom might even be a closet nerd. If you want to find a nerdy girl, you can always go where your passion takes you and find the one that calls out to your heart. She may be sitting there reading a comic book or being a social butterfly while spreading the word about her favorite project.

Dating a nerdy girl doesn’t differ much from dating a regular girl. She wants the same things. She wants to find someone nice, who she can spend time with, bonding on a deeper level. So, just be yourself and find the nerdy girl of your dreams, because she is out there waiting for you. [Read: How to find like-minded people who think just like you]

Pros of dating a nerdy girl

For those of you who have an existing crush on a nerdy girl, here’s what you need to know about her, if you want to date her.

#1 She has a wide range of interests. Like really wide. There are so many mediums to choose from and this means it’s going to be easy for you to get her a gift on the numerous occasions gifts are required.

#2 She is extremely passionate about these interests. Seeing someone show pure love and awe for something they are passionate about is a reward in itself. Mocking people for the little things they love just makes you bitter. Seeing a nerdy girl show you why she loves the things she does is just breathtaking.

#3 She hones her intellectual skills on a regular basis. You know you’ve got a keeper when all she does is work on how to be the best in what she does. The best part is you know she’s going to be rich one day because of her hard work. *wink wink*

#4 She can either be an introvert or an extrovert. Nerdy girls cannot be squeezed into stereotypical boxes. They are not antisocial. They are not cold and repressed. They are people with different levels of social skills and you would do well to know this before you assume anything about your crush.

#5 She’s a treasure trove of random facts. Talking to a nerdy girl is never boring. She has an unlimited cache of topics to discuss, and you can be sure it will never be as boring as what clothes they’re planning on wearing to work tomorrow.

#6 She has role models beyond actors and models. A nerdy girl admires the popular people in the world today, but she also knows who else can do with a little appreciation. Artists, scientists, performers, and activists are just a few of the people who may serve as your nerdy girl’s idol.

#7 She is the type of person who may be eager to learn something new. She didn’t get to nerdy status because she accepted what was given to her in school. She went out there and looked for other stuff to learn. That is what makes her the smart and impressive woman she is today.

#8 She is curious about many things. Curiosity moves the world to become better, when entertained in moderation. A nerdy girl is perpetually curious, leading her to be a great problem solver. Oh, did we mention this means she’s open to trying lots of new things in and out of the bedroom? [Read: 20 new things you need to try in bed at least once with your lover]

#9 She is intuitive. Nerdy girls work with both instinct and fact. Most of the time, you won’t be bothered by baseless ruminations from your SO because she’ll probably have hard evidence if you did anything wrong.

#10 She is like every other woman out there. Lovable, adorable, and most likely ready to love you with all of her heart.

Cons of dating a nerdy girl

As lovely as it sounds, dating a nerdy girl takes some work as well. There’s going to be good times and bad. Here’s what you can expect from the bad.

#1 She can be fixated on her work. Being passionate about your job means being fixated on your work sometimes. This will require a little bit of understanding on your part.

#2 She can also be fixated on her hobbies. You can expect her to match her passion for her job with her interests. Sometimes you’ll have to use a crowbar to pry her away from her hobbies, but you can also join her if all else fails.

#3 She might be defensive about her work and interests at times. If your girl can defend her stance, you’re basically screwed until you prove otherwise. Just remember you can probably win the fight with cuddles and hugs.

#4 She might take offense at being stereotyped. Who wouldn’t, right? Even though your girl is nerdy, it is not the only thing that defines her. Ease up on the stereotypical jokes and maybe you can survive this relationship.

#5 She might be attracted to someone smarter than you. This doesn’t mean she’s going to leave you for the next Einstein, but if you’re not yet a couple, you could be facing some tough competition. Just know the only thing that matters are how you work and mesh together, not how many IQ points you have. [Read: Sapiosexual types and 16 clearly defined fantasies of theirs]

#6 She can be too ambitious. There is such a thing, you know. Being too ambitious means sacrificing everything else for the chance to do something that you think you will attain with convenience and without compromise. If your girl wants something that bad, you might need to take a step back to let her have it.

#7 She spends a lot on her hobbies. Being a nerd can be expensive. Trust us.

#8 She can easily control your life using the newest tech on the market. GPS trackers, stealth drones, nanobots—this time period is abuzz with science fiction gadgets you wouldn’t believe existed. If your nerdy girl is extremely tech savvy, you won’t be able to poop without her knowing about it!

[Read: 15 highs and lows of dating someone who’s way smarter than you]

Think you can take on a nerdy girl and sweep her off her feet? Keep these facts in mind and you’ll be on your way to making her the happiest nerd alive.

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