How to Woo a Girl: 23 Secrets to Sweep a Woman Off Her Feet & Aww Her

Do you have your eye on a special lady? Learn how to woo a girl and look forward to spending much more time with her in the very near future! 

how to woo a girl

Learning how to woo a girl is an art. Too many guys rush right in, express their undying infatuation to a girl they like, and expect everything to work out just fine.

To make it simpler to understand, wooing a girl is like a first kiss. As much as you’d like the thought, you know you just can’t walk up to any girl on the street and kiss her, can you?

We know, in the movies it looks as easy as buying a sports car and calling it a day. But, let’s get real. Learning how to woo a woman requires a personalized, careful approach. You need to know the ways of women to know how to woo them. Makes sense, right?

[Read: How to court a woman – The real meaning and 23 gentlemanly ways to do it right]

The right way to woo a girl and pursue her

Here’s the most important thing to remember – Never ever surprise a girl with your intentions.

It may work, but almost always, you’re setting yourself up for failure – unless you’re in a club trying to hook up with a girl who’s looking for a one-night stand. [Read: How to hook up with a girl for a one night stand]

If you truly like her, get to know her better, and make her fall in love with you before you ask her out!

A well-planned wooing effort goes a long way in making a great impression and getting her to like you even before you ask her out.

The truth is that every guy has the potential to make a great girl fall for him. If you know the girl you like already, that’s a perfect start. But if you don’t know her yet, catch her attention and get her interested in you first. And once you get to know her, the whole dating game will become much easier and less stressful. [Read: How to approach a girl and impress her]

How to woo a girl you like

Here are some easy steps to woo a girl and make her like you in no time. But always remember that a great girl likes a great guy.

So if you do want to turn her on and make her want you, emotionally and sexually, you need to connect with her and make her desire you. You have to treat her well and respect her at all times. [Read: What turns a girl on sexually or otherwise about a guy – 25 irresistible traits you should have]

1. Spend time with her

Contrary to what most men think, avoiding a girl or playing hard to get before you get her attention will not make her like you more. That works only if she’s already made up her mind to like you or is already infatuated by you.

So instead of behaving like a brat, try to win her heart by becoming an intrinsic part of her life. Be there for her often, so somewhere inside, she feels incomplete when you aren’t around her! [Read: How to make a girl want you, desire you and think of you sexually]

2. Genuine compliments and charm

Be chivalrous, and you’ll definitely leave her thinking of you fondly. Chivalry is dead only because guys think it’s such a big effort. Chivalry should be a part of your nature, not something you use only when you’re trying to woo a girl.

Be charming and have long, meaningful conversations with her. Compliment her every now and then, sometimes even sexually. Remember, each time you make a girl blush with delight, that’s one step closer to wooing her and making her fall for you. [Read: How to charm a girl and subtle ways to make her think fondly of you]

3. Remind her of you

Always look for ways to constantly remind her of you. Text her often, share memes, have a good-night conversation over the phone, or buy something silly or inexpensive that reminds her of you.

Speaking over the phone or texting a girl late at night is the perfect way to build the romance. It almost always gets a girl interested in you within a few weeks.

If she’s apprehensive to chat with you late at night, start by calling her in the evenings, and delay the calls one step at a time every now and then until you’re able to get her over the phone or text her just before she sleeps.

And once she’s comfortable with that, all you need to do is flirt in a friendly manner until it’s time to take it to something more sexual – when she’s ready. [Read: How to flirt with your crush – The secrets to make any girl fall for you]

4. Be the dependable guy

In a girl’s mind, a great guy is a guy who can protect her and be there for her when she needs him. Be the dependable guy who’s always there in times of her need and you’ll learn how to woo a woman.

If she feels grateful and pleased to have you around, she’s bound to think highly of you. But at all times, make her feel special around you so she can start to look at you as a potential catch.

Offer to help her or accompany her when she goes to a new place, or needs a friend to talk about something. If you want to know how to woo a girl, you need to make her feel like you’re an indispensable part of her life. [Read: 20 characteristics of a good man that make him reliable and desirable]

5. Open up to her

Here’s something you need to know about the art of communication and how to woo a woman. If you want to connect emotionally with anyone in the whole world, all you need to do is confess about an incident in your own life.

When you confess something, it reveals your vulnerable side, and it makes the other person open up to you without even realizing it.

So if you want to get a girl to open up to you emotionally and connect with you, talk to her about a few secrets. It’ll make her feel closer to you, and she may start talking about her own life and her secrets too.

The more you open up to a girl and talk to her about your secrets or your deeper problems, the more she’ll open up to you and get emotionally attached to you. [Read: 25 ways to emotionally connect with someone and instantly feel closer]

6. Avoid becoming just a friend

This is very important. There’s a very thin line between a best friend and a guy who’s soon going to be a girl’s boyfriend.

It’s very easy to end up becoming a good friend when you’re trying to win a girl’s heart if you don’t build the sexual chemistry with her. Always let her know that you like her and find her attractive for starters and you’ll stay out of the friend zone. [Read: How to make sure you avoid the friend zone with a girl and make her desire you]

7. Flirt with her

If you want to know how to woo a woman, you need to flirt. Tease her and challenge her now and then when she says something. When you pull a girl’s leg, it makes her try harder to prove herself to you. And with a perfect sense of humor, she’ll end up having a great time with you all the time.

If you want to woo a girl, you need to learn to flirt and tease her. Touch her now and then discreetly, find excuses to get closer to her, and make her tingle with excitement by building sexual chemistry. [Read: How to build the sexual tension with a girl until she can’t handle it anymore]

8. Let her know you think of her

There’s nothing more complimentary than knowing you’re being thought of by someone all the time. So impress her and make her go ‘awww’ in little ways.

Do you know her favorite song? Tell her you heard it the other day. Or tell her you thought of her while watching a show on the television. Text her and let her know she resembles a very hot celebrity in a naughty role.

Let her know you think of her often. It’ll make her wonder why you think of her so often, and without realizing it, she’ll start thinking of you too. [Read: The big signs you’re simping and how to change your needy behavior]

9. Get the word out

Now that you’ve been wooing a girl for a while, if you want to ask the girl out at this point, you can still go ahead and do just that because in all probability, she may like you already.

But if you want to play it safe and make sure that she likes you before you even let her know that you like her already, don’t tell her anything just yet. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

Instead, while talking to a good girl friend of hers, just *accidentally* slip the little detail that you like her already. Appear embarrassed about it, but don’t tell her anything else.

Before you know it, the word would have spread to your friend and even her girl friends may start teasing both of you as a couple. It’s easy and safe, and you can always pretend like you never said it in the first place if things get awkward.

10. Ask her out

If you’ve built the right sexual tension and made her realize already that there’s more than just friends in the air, all you need to do is ask her out on a date.

It could be something as trivial as a coffee or even a date at the movies. Play it subtle, and when the time feels right, tell her how you feel. [Read: How to ask a girl to hang out casually without making a big deal of it]

11. Know your strengths

Tricky at first, but really look at yourself. What are your strongest qualities? Also, what are your weaker traits? *don’t worry, we all have them*

By knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are, you can work off of them when it comes to figuring out how to woo a woman.

12. Text her

Texting is the new phone call. If you really like her, phone her, but in between the calls, text her. It shows you’re interested. Now, if she’s not replying as often as you’d like, ease it up a bit.

However, if she texts back frequently and just as often, there’s no limit to when or how much you should text her. [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]

13. Be available, but not too available

Women like attention. However, if you’re too available it looks like you don’t have a life which is also a worry.

So, be attentive when you can. But don’t give her all your attention right away and try to hang out with her 24/7. You need to show you’re also busy with your life outside of her. [Read: 18 serious warning signs of a clingy guy and how to avoid becoming one]

14. Don’t get too creepy via social media

Add her as a friend, follow her on Instagram. However, don’t be that guy that likes her photos from eight years ago and comments on literally every single thing.

It just looks a tad desperate, you know? Take it easy, man. [Read: Dangers of social media – Why it makes you feel really insecure]

15. Pay attention to the small details

If you want to know how to woo a girl right, listen to the details. If she’s going into detail about something, she’s interested in that story and maybe there’s something to take out of it.

For example, she’s talking about some holiday she went on and mentions her favorite dish. Now you know what her favorite cuisine is for the next date. See? Also, she’ll be impressed by the fact that you listened. [Read: The Prince Charming traits that make all girls swoon and want you]

16. Introduce her to your friends

It’s a pretty big deal if you introduce her to your friends. It’s one of the “tests.” Also, she gets an opportunity to see what kind of guy you are, because let’s be honest, you are who you hang out with.

17. Put down your phone when you’re with her

As much as you should be texting her, when you’re with her, put your phone away. You can check it every so often because we know nowadays it’s impossible to go an hour without checking your phone.

But, really, if you like her, you wouldn’t even want to check your phone. Be present in the moment and appreciate the time you’re spending with her. That’s how to woo a girl!

18. Don’t be a sourpuss

No one wants to spend time with someone always bitching and moaning about something. You’re not going to win her over.

She may think it’s cute in the beginning, but after listening to you complain for a couple of hours straight, she’ll be glad the date is over. If you don’t like the activity you’re doing, try to look at it from another angle. Also, grow up. [Read: Is your negative thinking ruining your life? 20 signs and tips to cope]

19. Be a gentleman

If you want to learn how to woo a woman, be a gentleman. Women like men with manners. She doesn’t want to be chasing after some guy who’s ordering her around.

You have manners, we know you do, so use them. Women like being around men who show respect and manners. It’s really that simple. [Read: How to be a gentleman to a woman – 41 must-follow rules of etiquette]

20. Treat her occasionally

Now, you don’t have to pay for every single date, but it’s nice to treat someone every now and then.

The same goes for her; if she pays for your movie or dinner, that shows she respects and cares about you. Maybe we’re biased, but we think it’s a nice move if the guy pays for the first date.

21. Don’t suffocate her

We know that you like her, she knows that you like her, but you don’t have to suffocate her.

No one wants to be choked with affection. Show affection, just don’t shove it down her throat. Let her have time to develop her feelings. [Read: How not to be needy in a relationship and stop suffocating your lover]

22. Arrange some alone time

If you always hang out in groups, it’s hard to have an intimate moment. So, make sure you arrange some one-on-one time with her.

It doesn’t have to be fancy nor does it have to be a date. It could just be going for a walk, something simple. By doing that, she’ll get to see a side of you she may just fall in love with.

23. Respect her at all times

If you don’t respect her, then she’s not the one you should try to woo. You’re also totally missing the point on how to woo a woman.

She won’t stick around if you don’t respect her. Also, if you have problems respecting women in general, seek some therapy to help you figure out why. If you don’t respect her now, you won’t respect her later. You waste her time and your time. [Read: Misogynist men – 18 signs you have a woman hater in you]

Now it’s time to make a move!

You’ve shown her that you like her and now you know how to woo a girl with ease. So, what’s next?

Well, perhaps you should simply come right out and ask her to go on a date with you! You’ve made your intentions clear and you should have a sense of where she’s at too. By asking her out, she’s left with zero questions in her mind about your feelings.

Then all that’s left to do is plan the perfect first date!

[Read: How to ask a girl to be your girlfriend and all the secrets to make sure she says yes]

Knowing how to woo a girl is simple, even if you want to play it safe and approach her as a friend. All you need to do is remember to avoid the friend zone, and constantly let her know that there’s more than friendship on your mind.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...