Why Don’t Girls Like Me? 25 Brutal Reasons She’s Just Not Into You

If you are asking the question, “Why don’t girls like me?” then you need to know what you are doing wrong. So, here’s a list so you can change your ways.

why dont girls like me

The thoughts, “Why don’t girls like me?” or “Why don’t the girls I like, feel the same way about me?” are common questions in the male mind that start during puberty and can stretch on pretty much forever!

Cheery thought, isn’t it? The mystery of a woman’s mind is deep, dark, and dangerous. For example, why does she like the tattooed bad boy, but then the minute you do something off-color she scolds you for it?

[Read: The secrets to get a girl to like you again after she’s lost interest in you already]

Why girls don’t like you – 25 big truths you probably ignored till now

We’re solving the worldwide mystery of why your dream girl doesn’t like you back. Here are all the brutally honest reasons why she’s just not that into you.

1. You’ve been friend-zoned

If you have ever had unreciprocated romantic feelings for the potential love of your life while they just sit there and act like you are BFFs, then you have definitely been put in the friend zone. 

The friend zone is a real place. Picture it like a cold, dark prison full of “best pal” behavior and no blowjobs. When your crush puts you in the friend zone, you will never get out. Ever.

One of the reasons your girl might not like you is because she has mentally put you in the friend zone. 

This means she wants all the benefits of going to dinner, binging on Netflix, confiding secrets, and bringing you as a “plus-one” to events without also having the fringe benefits of making out, having sex, and sharing a romantic connection. 

If you’re wondering, why don’t girls like me, this could be a giant reason why she doesn’t like you, at least not in that way, because hey, you’re just the friend! [Read: How to avoid the friend zone and make her desire you]

2. You are annoying

Harsh as it may be, have you ever considered that you are just downright annoying? If you’re constantly asking, “Why don’t girls like me? ” it may be due to your extremely irritating personality.

If, for instance, you’ve been talking about the same topic for 30 minutes, and all your crush has said is a random series of “hmm,” “huh,” or “cool,” this probably means that she finds you either boring or annoying. 

Why? Well, you’re probably talking about things she doesn’t care about, or things she can only politely feign interest in for so long, such as video games, bro movies, building your own computer, anime, manga, or anything else in these “nerdy” niches.

That’s not to say that some girls don’t absolutely adore those topics—just not the one you have a crush on! [Read: How to not be boring and get people excited to talk to you and be around you]

3. You don’t know when it shut up

Another trait that can be very annoying is being a know-it-all. For example, if you catch yourself constantly interrupting her to correct her about nearly everything she says, you’re showing her that you think you’re better than her.

You are not being clever or wise, but rather, you’re just being a know-it-all jackass.

4. You have bad personal hygiene habits

One kind of guy girls don’t want to be around is someone who doesn’t shower, can’t dress himself, and doesn’t know how to use deodorant or hair gel.

She’s not asking that you crack a 6-pack and turn into Fabio overnight, but a man who can’t take simple care of his body is a huge turn-off. [Read: 25 things average guys do that most girls absolutely hate and find a complete turn-off]

5. You offer nothing

No offense, we’re sure you’re a great guy and all, but do you have much to offer to a relationship? If not, she’s probably well aware. We don’t mean this in a “she’s a gold-digger” way.

Simply put, sometimes it isn’t enough to have a rockin’ personality. Just as you would want her to emotionally and physically contribute to a relationship, she expects the following things:

a) Love and support

b) Honesty and loyalty

c) That you encourage her to be her best self and to help her reach her goals

d) That you have a car/license

e) That you are responsible

f) That you have a steady job

g) Financial independence from your parents [Read: 20 things women look for in a man before falling for him]

6. You are needy

As much as girls love to be reassured by love and affection from their men, they also love the chase as much as their male counterparts do. When you act needy, especially if you’re not in a relationship with her, it’s going to give her pause.

Signs of being super needy include texting/calling her nonstop, constantly asking for reassurance or affirmations of her care, friendship, or affection, talking about her too much, or getting upset if she hangs out with someone else.

If you’re like this now, what will you be like if you were to actually date? [Read: 18 serious warning signs of a clingy guy and how to avoid turning into one]

7. You’re a jerk

If you’re wondering, why don’t girls like me, be honest with yourself… are you an asshole? If so, she sees it clear as day! While some women are actually super attracted to that bad-boy appeal, your girl may not be one of them. 

If you are mean-spirited, an anti-feminist, a fat-shamer, tell unfunny or crude jokes, are disrespectful, lack empathy, are a substance abuser, or all and all just a big jerk, she probably won’t want anything to do with you *and for good reason!* [Read: Good vs. bad – What kind of guys do girls like?]

8. You’re short

Unfortunately for all the shorties out there, height has a lot to do with a woman’s initial attraction. If you are on the shorter side of the spectrum, it’s probably going to be more difficult for you to score a date.

Sorry. But you wouldn’t want to be with someone who only judges you for your looks, anyway, right? [Read: Why do girls like tall guys? All the reasons why she’d rather look up]

9. You’re unattractive

The truth hurts… and the truth is that women and men alike are shallow, shallow creatures.

Your question of why girls don’t like you may have everything to do with the way you look. Girlfriend’s just not attracted to you. So forget her and find someone who appreciates your crooked smile. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys finish last all the time]

10. You’re poor

Let’s face it – women like a man with money. That doesn’t necessarily make her a gold digger, but it isn’t uncommon.

When a guy is poor, he is not attractive. It says he doesn’t really care to improve himself or his financial situation. She doesn’t want to have more money than you. It’s f*cked up, but true.

11. You’re too shy

Women like a man with charisma and a great personality. If all other women notice him, then they find that attractive.

Even if he’s not an extrovert, they like it if he is confident enough to take the lead. So, if you’re too shy to make a move or ask her out, she’s not going to think that’s a good quality in a man. [Read: Do girls like shy guys who don’t make a bold move? The honest truth about what they secretly desire]

12. You are awkward with your words and actions

You don’t have to be shy to be socially awkward. If you don’t really know what to say or how to act in any given situation, then that is not something girls are looking for.

Women want a man who knows what to say and how to carry on a good conversation with them.

13. You’re clueless about girls

If you don’t know how the inner minds of women work, then you will most likely annoy most of them.

For example, if you never compliment her or are always flaky when you make plans, they won’t even consider you as an option. You have to figure out what women want… and then become it. [Read: How to make a girl want you, desire you and think of you sexually]

14. You don’t understand boundaries

Maybe you are the kind of guy who asks girls for naked pictures of themselves before you meet them in person. That is wildly inappropriate, and girls hate that.

There are boundaries that are normal and natural, and you shouldn’t cross them. So, if you don’t know social norms, you might violate them. If this is something you do, then you need to read up on how to act.

15. Your body language is creepy

Again, there are social norms in general, and also when it comes to body language. You should not sit too close to someone, talk in their face, or touch them too much.

If you’re wondering why girls don’t like you, and then you do all of these things, you should know that it makes women want to back off from you.

So, unless you are pretty sure that they like you back, then you shouldn’t invade their personal space. [Read: How to flirt by touch and use subtle body language to seduce anyone]

16. You play video games too much

Women like a man who has varied interests in life. They want a man who has balance.

So, if you only have work and video game playing going on in your life, that is very unattractive. No one wants to date a guy who is glued to their video games – or even addicted. That means you would have no quality time to spend with a girl.

17. They don’t like your friends

A woman might think you are cool, but she might not like the people you hang out with. As the saying goes, “Birds of a feather flock together.”

So, if she doesn’t know you very well, she could assume that you are just like them, but you are just hiding it in the beginning. Or, she might dread the thought of having to hang out with them if you become a couple.

18. You’re selfish

Selfishness is a very unattractive quality in anyone, and women hate it. So, if you’re asking why girls don’t like you, but you are always talking about yourself or never considering her needs and wants, then why would she want to go out with you?

Women want a man who asks about a woman’s desires and really wants to fulfill them to make them happy. [Read: How to stop being selfish – 20 ways to stop using and hurting others]

19. You’re not very smart – or too smart

If you can’t hold an interesting conversation to save your life, then that is very boring for women.

Sure, you might like hunting and NASCAR, but if that’s all you talk about, she won’t like it one bit.

On the flip side, if you’re so smart that all you want to talk about is quantum physics and the theory of relativity, then she might not even know what you’re talking about half the time.

20. You’re too passive

The natural human dynamic is such that the man is the “chaser” and the woman is the “chasee.” In other words, a woman wants you to pursue her.

She doesn’t want to have to do all the work at any stage of the relationship. So, if you’re too passive and not making enough decisions, she will grow resentful and look for someone who won’t do that. [Read: Why you need to chase and pursue a woman if you want to impress her]

21. Your words and actions don’t match

As the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words.” Maybe you are a big talker, but you never follow through with what you say.

This is very unattractive to women. If you say something, then be a man of your word and just do it. [Read: How to charm a girl and subtle ways to make her think fondly of you]

22. You don’t have any sense of style

A man who is in ripped jeans, a t-shirt, or a flannel shirt is not always very attractive. Sure, if you just came in from working outside, and that’s fine.

But if you’re going to a nice restaurant or to a gathering of friends and family, then she doesn’t want you to look like a slob. She wants to be proud to be with you. So, you need to care about how you look and get some nice clothes, look cleaned up, and try to impress her. [Read: How to be the hot guy – 20 rules to instant hotness]

23. You don’t have any goals or ambitions

If you don’t have a job, or even if you have one but you have no ambition or desire to move up in the company, this is not something that women like.

It says you are lazy and won’t be a provider. Even if she doesn’t need you to provide money for her, she won’t be impressed by your lack of goals in life. [Read: What should I do with my life? 16 steps to design your ideal life]

24. You brag about yourself

If you are always talking about how expensive your car is, or how much money you made in the stock market, well, that’s great.

But, when that’s all you talk about, it gets really old. No one likes someone who brags. So, try to be humble and she will be much more impressed with you.

25. You’re cheap

You might have a lot of money, but if you don’t spend it, that’s not cool. So, if you expect a woman to always pay her way on a date, she won’t like that.

When you are in a relationship, well, that’s different. But in the beginning, you need to be the gentleman and step up and pay for things. It’s not attractive when a man is cheap.

[Read: How to be a gentleman to a woman – 41 must follow rules of etiquette]

We hope you found our guide helpful. No longer do you have to spend your time pondering, “Why don’t girls like me?!” Now you know! Either you’re a total douche, or you’ve just been going after the wrong girl for way too long. You deserve a chick who digs you for you, so if at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again!

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