20 Signs She’s Flirting With You Even If She’s Trying to Be Subtle

Is she being friendly or is she flirting? It’s time you found out the signs she’s flirting with you, so you know the difference!

signs she's flirting with you

Do you know how to recognize the signs a girl is flirting with you? Many men are tongue-tied trying to figure out if the girl of their dreams likes them or not. Let alone pick up on the signs she’s flirting with you.

Well, usually when this happens, guys are too busy freaking out and overthinking. And you’re missing all the small details which tell you everything. Stop it! If you really want to find out, you’re going to have to relax and start paying attention to the nonverbal cues.

There are subtle differences in a girl’s behavior when they like a guy, want to know what they are? Read how girls flirt – 15 things they do differently when they like you before reading on.

The most obvious signs she’s flirting with you

Women aren’t as vocal as men when it comes to expressing their attraction for someone. Rather, they’re much subtler and make small gestures and hints to show the guy that they’re into him. Basically, men need to be mind readers!

You may be talking to a girl and she’ll be giving you all the signs she’s flirting with you. And you’re focusing on the wrong things. Instead, focus on the signs that matter, the signs that tell you what’s really going on.

So, it’s time you learned the signs she’s flirting with you. That way, you’ll see what’s going on with the girl you’re talking to. Because she’s giving you the hints, you just need to see them.

1. She’s all about the smiles

Now, you and I both know that people don’t give genuine smiles for no reason. It’s not that she has to smile, she wants to smile. If her smile is genuine and you see it from her mouth to her eyes, she’s physically showing you that she’s happy to be around you. If she’s smiling at you and you can notice a few other signs she’s flirting with you, you’re onto a winner! [Read: Strongest signs of mutual attraction between a guy and a girl]

2. She’s excited when she’s around you

If she’s usually dodging you and avoiding being near you, take the hint that she’s not into you. But if she’s relaxed and excited when she’s spending time with you, well, she may be turned on. See, you’re not bringing out her anxiety, rather, you’re bringing out her relaxed side.[Read: Is she actually hiding her feelings for you?]

3. She doesn’t hesitate to touch you

Now, we’ve heard this before, but this is so important. Unless it’s accidental, if a girl touches you, she’s attracted to you. Both men and women refrain from touching people that they’re not into. If she’s making excuses to touch you, this is one of the signs she’s flirting with you. Does she play with your fingers? Compare palm sizes? Man, she’s into you!

4. She changed her look suddenly

Ever since you started talking, you’ve noticed a change in the way she looks. She’s been wearing more stylish clothes, doing her hair and makeup, she’s putting more effort into her looks. Now, she wouldn’t do this unless she’s trying to attract someone’s eye.

5. You feel sexual energy

If you want to read the signs she’s flirting with you, just stop for a moment. Listen to your body. What do you feel? When two people share sexual chemistry, they’ll feel it. It’s like an electrical current going up your spine and stomach. Listen to your body because it’ll be able to give you clues of what’s going on. [Read: What does sexual attraction feel like – How to know exactly]

6. She sits close to you

Again, if I had sat next to a guy that I didn’t like, well, I would have made sure there was a comfortable distance between us. I don’t want to him to sit any closer to me because I’m not into him. But if I’m into a guy, I’ll squeeze my ass right next to his and make sure at least one of our body parts is lightly touching each other. If she’s making it her intention to sit close to you, it’s one of the major signs she’s flirting with you.

7. She flirts with her body

When she’s around you, she’s gently caressing her neck, playing with her hair, leaning in towards you. You may be new at this, but this girl is giving you all the signs right there. Nonverbal communication is crucial when figuring out if someone likes you. So, if she’s physically acting like she’s flirting with you, she is. [Read: How to flirt with a girl and seduce her the friend way]

8. It’s about eye contact

Eyes are a major factor when you’re looking for signs a girl is flirting with you. In fact, you can flirt with a girl only by using your eyes. If she’s looking at you and smiling or giving you glances every now and then, it looks like she may be interested in you. Now, if she’s dodging your eye contact, then it looks like she doesn’t want to flirt with you. 

9. She’s a big talker

Now, she could just be a big talker, not all girls are quiet and mousy. But if she’s talking more than usual, it’s probably because she’s nervous around you. If the conversation is effortless and there’s a good flow, then she’s into you. With that being said, if you’re the one doing all the talking, well, that’s a sign she’s NOT flirting with you, or she may not be that into you.

10. She’s nervous around you

When you’re around her, she’s dropping things, stuttering when she speaks and acts like a complete klutz. Hey, it happens to the best of us. But this just shows you that you’ve rattled her. She’s out of her comfort zone when you’re around and that’s because this is a sign she’s flirting with you, and is probably very into you as well. [Read: 12 obvious signs she really wants you to ask her out]

11. She mentions the future

Now, this isn’t marriage I’m talking about, but when you’re talking to her, she mentions things that you could do together in the future. Going to see a movie, taking a hike, whatever it is, she’s telling you that you’ll be the guy she’s going to do these things with. She sees you as more than just a friend.

12. She’s fidgeting

She can’t seem to sit still or talk without moving her hands, uncrossing and recrossing her legs, playing with her hair. She’s all over the place because she doesn’t know what to do. She moves so much, she could be on a dance floor right now. [Read: Female body language – 15 things girls do and what they mean]

13. You’re flirting with her

You wouldn’t be able to flirt with her unless she’s flirting back. Now, if you’re trying to flirt with her but she gives you nothing, it’s time to move on. But if you’re able to flirt with her, she’s allowing it to happen.

14. It’s in her hands

When talking to a girl, watch her hands. I know this is a weird thing to say, but there’s a reason. Her hands can tell you a lot about what she’s feeling. She may be gesticulating excessively or fiddling with her fingers. Both are signs that she’s into you. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she actually likes you]

15. She asks you a lot of questions

She wants to know every small thing about you. So, she’s been asking you a lot of questions. You probably don’t even notice her asking you questions, but this is something to pay attention to. If she’s looking to get to know you on a more personal level, it’s a sign that she’s into you and wants to see what you’re all about.

16. She’s biting her lip

One of the big signs a girl is flirting with you is about her mouth. What is she doing with it? Smiling is a good start, but is she biting her lip? No, she’s not got an allergy, she’s into you! She’s basically willing you to look at her mouth, which we all know is what we use to kiss with. She’s flirting up a storm! [Read: Lip biting and the scientific explanation behind what makes this so sexy]

17. She’s mirroring your body language

This is something she can’t control because it’s a subconscious thing we all do when we’re comfortable with someone, or when we’re impressed by someone. Mirroring means that she’s doing the same thing with her body that you’re doing with yours. If you’re leaning forward slightly, she’ll do the same. She might cross her legs if you do, or play with her glass if that’s what you’re doing. It’s very subtle, but it’s powerful in its meaning.

18. She doesn’t move away when you enter her personal space

So you’re still not sure if she’s flirting with you? Step into her comfort zone, either by sitting really close to her, or by standing so close you’re almost whispering in her ear. Pay attention to her body language over the next five seconds. Is she flustered and awkward, but does she continue to stay close? She’s definitely interested in flirting with you. Does she take a step back and away from you? Well, maybe she isn’t completely smitten by you just yet.

19. She gives you opportunities

So you’re hanging out with her, and she talks about wanting to check out this new restaurant in town, or she tells you she’s alone on the weekend and has no one to hang out with. Or just about anything else that highlights her surprising lack of social life! Now she’s not complaining about how boring her life is. She’s actually giving you an opportunity to ask her out. Or at the least, make plans together! [Read: How to seduce women – 20 moves to melt any girl and make her want more]

20. She shows off her body subtly

Now she may not do this is the most obvious of ways. But if you ever get the feeling like she wants you to check her out – either when she’s walking away, trying a new dress, or when she shows off her curves, chances are, she’s trying to subtly seduce you. This is an especially strong sign if she catches you staring at her, and smiles knowingly!

Check out 18 more signs to know for sure if a girl is flirting with you when she’s your friend.

Men always want to know what women really want. Usually, women show the signs she’s flirting with you. The only thing you need to do is pay attention to the little details.

Want to know more about how you can be the guy all girls dream of dating? Read these next:

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