It’s the age-old question of what women want. But in the modern age, are chivalry and an ability to provide really what women are looking for?
Some guys are just born with all of it, aren’t they? Some men have glorious bodies from spending hours at the gym. Some are great conversationalists and can talk to women for hours on end. Some have loads of cash they can spend on expensive dates on their yachts. And of course, some are just simply well-endowed down there.
But of course, amidst all these fine specimens of manhood, there are other guys out there who are wondering, “How can I compete with all these men?!” If you really think about it, there are things even the average Joe can do to make a woman’s head turn in his direction.
How to be more attractive to women
If you’re one of those guys who are wondering how you can present yourself in a way that’s more attractive to women, this list is made especially for you:
#1 Have a great sense of humor. Now this isn’t something you can learn off the bat. But it helps to be able to try and make the ladies laugh. Learn how to deliver a punchline, have an arsenal of funny stories and never, ever delve into the realm of making a woman laugh at the expense of another person.
You’d be surprised at how a hearty laugh can make a girl fall head over heels for you! After all, when you’re both old and grey, laughter is a great cure-all for making you feel young again. [Read: How to make her laugh, smile and like you instantly]
#2 Good hygiene. Keep yourself properly groomed and presentable, and you’ll instantly get plus points in the looks department. Keep your fingernails trimmed, your breath fresh and your hair grease-free whenever you’re looking to attract a girl. No one wants to be touched or kissed by a guy who looks like he rolled around in the dirt before a date!
#3 Good posture. No one wants a sloucher. Not only does it convey low self-esteem and carelessness for one’s appearance, but it’s also very unsightly. In addition, if you happen to be of below average height, slouching will only make you shorter than the girls you want to date!
Keep your back straight and your chin parallel to the ground, and you’ll command attention wherever you go. In the long run, it also keeps you from being chronically hunchbacked, and do you think anyone wants to date a Quasimodo?
#4 Know something girly. Don’t worry guys, this won’t decrease your manliness. In fact, it can make women think a little more highly of you, since many women would be attracted to a man who is in touch with his feminine side.
It pays to know the difference between a manicure and pedicure and why both are equally important investments. It also helps to know a little about the latest chick flicks. In addition to this, some ladies like to talk about girly things, and if you know a little bit about what she’s talking about, at least you won’t be completely clueless!
#5 Good taste. Like a sense of humor, this takes time and experience. But in general, it pays to have good taste in something, whether it’s restaurants, movies, clothing or even interior design. What you have good taste in shows that you pay attention to detail, and that you are passionate about something. Good taste lets your date know that you can take a stand and choose what you like, instead of just going with whatever other people are into.
#6 Respectfulness. Be respectful to everyone you come into contact with. No one has the right to be a jerk to anyone, whether it’s the waiter or anyone they pass on the street. It’s true that respect must be earned, but there’s no reason to be disrespectful to a person who’s not doing anything bad towards you.
#7 Willingness to learn. No one’s born a Casanova… Except for, well, Casanova. Everyone learns and makes mistakes along the way. Instead of faking it until you make it, it’s more likely that a girl would be impressed if you admitted that you’re not good at something, but you’re open to trying it.
If you find out that the girl you’re into loves yoga, don’t pretend to be a world-class yogi. Instead, tell her that you’ve never tried it, but you’re open to learning more about it. Remember, this willingness should be present outside and inside of the bedroom, if you know what I mean.
#8 Assertiveness. No, assertiveness isn’t being bossy. It’s having enough of a backbone to stand up for yourself, and stick by your decisions. You know how they say nice guys finish last? In a way, it can be true, because men who know what they want are more likely to get what they want.
They don’t go dilly-dallying about and making their girl make all the decisions. If you want something, say so. But don’t overdo it, otherwise you’ll end up being labeled a bully. [Read: 25 things that make men attractive to women]
#9 Know how to make plans. In line with assertiveness, you also have to learn how to make plans without relying on a girl to make them for you. There have been many men who have been forced into an argument with their girlfriends as they say, “I don’t know, where do you want to go?”
Nothing infuriates women more than asking a guy for a suggestion and getting this irritating answer. Want to impress a woman? Have a list of potential date places where you can both have a good time. She’ll definitely admire you, and you get to pick a place you actually like. Win-win! [Read: 50 cute and sexy things guys should do for girls]
#10 Passion. Everyone needs a bit of passion to get their heart pumping, whether it’s the latest console game, a great book, an awesome series or a new hobby. People instantly become more interesting, if they’re also investing their time in something they genuinely enjoy.
Not only can your passion be fuel for conversations, but it can also be something your crush is into. Just remember not to overdo it, because you don’t want to dominate the conversation.
#11 Get along with other people. Women can sometimes instinctually tell if you have a good relationship with the women in your life, based on how you interact with other ladies. Likewise, the way you interact with others also says a lot about your personality.
Proof of a solid social foundation often manifests itself in the unlikeliest ways such as how you talk to customer service reps, how you interact with kids and so on. These situations can be a test for how well you can handle being introduced to other people. And trust us, no one wants to date someone who seems like he’ll just mope in a corner when introduced to friends and family. [Read: How to avoid being put in the friend zone]
#12 A challenge. Women, like men, also enjoy the hunt. But it’s not the won’t-call-for-days kind of hunt. Instead, many women are intrigued by a man who can challenge her mind and body.
For instance, a man can challenge the way a women thinks by giving her his point of view when it comes to beauty standards. He can challenge her body by inviting her to a fun run. He can challenge her by introducing her to something new and exciting. Women dig this, trust us.
#13 Honesty and humility. You can’t go wrong if you’re being genuinely honest with what you feel. Believe it or not, no matter how well you think you can hide what you’re thinking and feeling, there will be some dead giveaways that will let a girl know that you’re not as honest as you seem.
You don’t need to divulge every detail of your life, all you have to do is be honest about who you really are. It’s better to admit one’s faults than to deny them and be found out!
[Read: 13 rules of etiquette for the modern gentleman]
Now, you don’t have to have all these qualities ALL the time. But it helps to try these tips out, especially if you want a girl to be attracted to you. There’s no hierarchy of traits that would guarantee women swooning all over you, but at least you’ll cover a wide range of feminine tastes, if you give each tip a shot.
