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Will She Ever Contact Me Again? How to Know She Wants You Back

She dumped you because you didn’t really care about her feelings. Now you play the sad puppy, wondering, will she ever contact me again?

will she ever contact me again

We’ve all been there. The wondering will she ever contact me again part? Because you were with someone you liked, but you took advantage of the fact that they really liked you. You didn’t appreciate them like you really should. Then the day comes where she sits you down and says it’s not working out.

You’re surprised, sure, she told you before that she feels a lack of attention from you, but you were watching the basketball game. You didn’t quite hear her. The point is, she dumped your ass. She probably didn’t actually want to break up with you. She had no choice, because she wasn’t seeing any results.

Will she ever contact me again? The answers you need to hear

Now, you sit on the couch googling what you should do. Wondering, hoping she’ll contact you again. I get it. In fact, I’m still waiting for one guy to contact me. Is he? Most likely not. But, it doesn’t have to be a “no” for you.

I don’t know how you broke up or why, but there’s always a chance that she may come back around and talk to you about your relationship, you just need to see the signs.

#1 Don’t focus on one sign. Before I even go through the signs that she wants you back and most likely will contact you, you need to know that you cannot look at only one sign. Just because you ran into her at Starbucks, doesn’t mean she wants to be with you again. Now, if you keep running into her and then she likes some photos on your Facebook, that’s a good sign she wants to contact you. [Read: What a woman is really trying to tell you when she pulls away]

#2 Do not mistake curiosity with wanting you. There’s one thing about women you need to know. Just because you found out we creep on your Facebook page or we ask people about you, doesn’t mean we want you back. This could be purely an ego based action.

She wants to know if you’re dating someone. Why? Maybe she’s still single, so if you moved on before her, it hurts the ego. But again, that doesn’t mean she will contact you to get you back. Or, it might, maybe she realizes what she lost or she’s jealous. [Read: Social media and relationships: The good, the bad, & the ugly]

#3 She indirectly initiates contact. She may flat out contact you. Remember, in break-ups, there’s a thing called pride. It always gets in the way. Instead, she may “accidentally” text you or invite herself to a group event where she knows you’ll be, that way, you bump into each other. So, her contact may not be so forward as you’d like it to be. But, you can always swallow your pride and make the first move.

#4 If you do see her, there’s subtle physical contact. If you run into her or see her at a party, you probably say hi and have a small conversation. Now, within that conversation, if she touches you on the arm or chest—it doesn’t matter where—she most likely still has feelings for you. Will she call you? Who knows, but it does show you that she wants you. [Read: Is your ex still thinking of you? The biggest signs you can’t ignore]

#5 Through the grapevine. You heard it through the grapevine classic. Maybe she told a mutual friend she misses you and wants to talk to you. Again, this could be her way to tell you she wants to be in contact with you, but she doesn’t want to make the first move. If you hear things through the grapevine, there’s a reason why.

#6 Hiding her dating life. Listen, no one hides their dating life unless they don’t want someone specific to see it. Why else would you hide it? Exactly.

Maybe you know she’s seeing someone but she’s not saying anything. She doesn’t want you to know she’s taken because she hopes things will work out between you. She may contact you again, but, honestly, I would contact her. [Read: Are you her backup boyfriend?]

#7 She turns up where you hang out. Women are pretty sneaky, so, if you see us multiple times at multiple places, it isn’t by chance. If she pops up everywhere you hang out, she does it on purpose. It’s a pretty good sign she misses you and wants to talk to you. It depends on whether or not you accept it.

#8 She’s active on your social media. She likes your photos, she likes your statuses. Hell, she likes it all. Now, she needs to start commenting on things, that’s when you know she’s trying to contact you. If she’s already commenting on statuses and photos, she’s basically contacting you. Now it’s your turn to make the next move.

#9 She still hangs out with your friends. Now, if you both hang out with mutual friends, it’s cool. But if she still hangs out with your friends, come on, man, you know. She’s not done with you, she’ll contact you. When a girl is really over you, she cuts everything. All contact with any friends of yours. But if she’s not fully out of the relationship with you, she still talks to your friends. [Read: How to win your ex back in a healthy way]

#10 You notice that she’s working on herself. She’s starting to look pretty hot all of a sudden. Now don’t take it as if she’s not interested in you, she is. This is why she invests so much time and energy into looking this good. She wants to show you what you’re missing out on. She’s trying to get you to contact her. Now, whether you do or not is your choice, but the sign is clear.

#11 Her social media is busy. She’s always going out, always smiling, having the best time of her life now that you’re no longer in it. Well, that’s a lie. I mean, some women will actually be a lot happier without you, no offense. However, most women do this whole media frenzy on Facebook to show you they’re great when they’re not. In reality, she wants you to contact her.

#12 You feel that she misses you. If you’ve been with someone long enough and had a close connection, you’ll be able to actually feel them when they miss you. It’s a weird feeling, but you have this sense in your heart and stomach that they miss you. Now, she may not contact you even though she misses you, but you contact her instead.

#13 Use your mutual friend for help. Do you want to know if she wants to contact you? Then ask your mutual friends to get involved. I mean, what else are friends for? Ask them if she’s been talking about calling you. They’ll tell you what’s going on so you can decide if you wait for her to do it or make the move yourself. [Read: 16 signs your ex clearly still wants you back in her life]

#14 She tries to make you jealous. At the end of the day, she wants you to call her, especially if she shows multiple signs. She could contact you, and if you didn’t screw things up too badly, she will. However, if you really hurt her, you need to call her.

[Read: 4 fastest steps to win back your ex girlfriend]

Now that you know the signs for whether or not she wants you back, you’ll be able to answer the question, “will she ever contact me again” all by yourself.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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