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Smitten Kitten: What It Means & 22 Signs Someone’s Infatuated with You

When someone is head-over-heels for you, then they are smitten with you. So, here are the signs to look for to know for sure if they are.

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No, we are not back in the 1920s, but there is something quite charming about someone being smitten with you. Smitten is a word that you might not have heard, and, if you have, you were probably visiting the assisted living community nearby.

It is a word that is a combination between magical and absolutely delighted. It’s infatuation of the happy kind!

What does it mean to be smitten?

Being smitten with someone means that you are powerfully “taken” by another person. In other words, you have intense romantic feelings for another person – either someone you’re already with or someone you would like to be with in the future.

The bottom line is that being smitten means that you are overcome or struck by instantaneous love. Like love at first sight, it doesn’t have to be first sight, and it doesn’t always have to go away.

Are you wondering if someone is smitten with you? Or if you’re smitten with someone? Let’s take a look at the signs from both sides, and find out for sure!

The big signs that someone is smitten with you

Smitten is something that is very special. It is that moment that you recount, well after you are old and married, as the moment when you just “knew” that they were the one for you. So, how can you tell if someone is smitten with you?

Like being hit over the head or shot through the heart by cupid’s arrow, these are the biggest signs that someone is smitten with you. [Read: Totally smitten or mildly crushing? All the ways to tell them apart]

1. Their face lights up

When someone is smitten with you, it is like they are seeing color for the first time. A strange mix of amazement and bewilderment will cover their face.

Like seeing a unicorn, they didn’t really believe that anything as perfect or beautiful as you really existed. It is a look of instant love that is unmistakable; it is something close to finding out Santa really does exist. [Read: The absolutely dreamy signs of love at first sight]

2. They can’t stop staring at you

When someone is smitten with you, it is like you have magical powers over them. The reason they can’t stop staring is that they don’t believe their own eyes that you are right there in front of them.

Typically, when you are smitten with someone, it is like all the qualities you have ever imagined being perfect are found in one person. Like staring at a jewel, you are simply too extraordinary to look away from. Also, they want to make sure that you don’t just disappear like a mirage.

3. They are speechless

When you are smitten with someone, it can take your breath away… literally. It also can turn you stupid.

Even the most talkative among us becomes a pool of idiocy not being able to say anything, just standing there with your mouth wide open. That is what someone who is smitten with you will do. [Read: The 21 clearest signs of love – How to decode that fuzzy feeling]

4. They can’t stop following you around

When someone is smitten with you, they don’t want to let you out of their sight. Waiting their whole life for this moment of awesomeness, they will follow you to the ends of the earth, or just the next table or bathroom, if they have to.

The point is never to let their vision of loveliness go, and they work very hard at shadowing you so you can’t just dissipate into thin air. [Read: 18 signs your date really likes you on your first date]

5. They text you non-stop

The smitten doesn’t stop at first glance. If someone is smitten with you, then they can’t get enough of you. That means that they want to be in constant contact with you. They hang on your every word and wait for your reply text not so patiently.

If someone is blowing up your phone, then that is a sure sign that they are smitten with you. When all texting rules go out the window, they are definitely smitten, and just don’t care about games anymore. [Read: 28 hush-hush signs that someone has a big crush on you]

6. They find any excuse to talk to or see you

When someone is smitten with you, that means that you make them feel alive for the first time. Like a drug, they will do anything and everything to make sure that they can have you around.

Finding reasons to call, text, or even stop by, they are relentless in making sure that you are in their line of vision so that you don’t forget that they are there waiting in the wings to be loved.

7. They give you gifts, send you things, or just spoil you embarrassingly

If someone is smitten with you, then they let all reason fly out the window. Doing anything to win your heart and hold it forever, they aren’t above lavish gifts, spoiling you with things you don’t need, or mushy messages that are so over the top you wonder if they are sincere.

Not being willing to let something go just because they don’t want to go too far or embarrass themselves, they aren’t about to give up and aren’t afraid to go overboard. [Read: 19 sure signs of falling in love to watch out for!]

8. They are tongue-tied

If they are tripping over themselves trying to find the right words to say, or anything to say at all, they are probably smitten with you. Even rocket scientists can have a hard time finding the word “there” if they are smitten.

As if someone has kicked all your education and common sense out of your head, they say stupid things that don’t make sense, off-handed comments meant to be funny but aren’t, and may come across as a bumbling idiot. It isn’t their fault; they are just so taken by you that nature took their brain, for a bit.

9. Everyone in the room notices it

When someone is smitten with you everyone in the room notices. It makes the person who is smitten lose themselves and behave in an unusual manner.

That tough guy is suddenly tripping over himself and being sensitive, or that girl who doesn’t care about anyone but herself is suddenly listening to what you have to say. When someone is smitten, everyone who knows them… knows. It is just that obvious that something has overcome them. [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]

10. They ignore everyone and everything

When someone is smitten with you, it doesn’t matter who they came with or who was important to them before you came along. When smitten, everyone else in the room disappears.

If you notice that some guy has ditched his wingman, or even worse his date, then he is smitten with you. That old black magic has taken hold and isn’t about to let go.

11. They make plans in advance

If someone is dating a person and they’re not smitten, they usually have the attitude of “Let’s see where things go.” They leave plans until the last minute.

But when someone is smitten with you, they make plans to see you well in advance. [Read: 28 signs someone has a secret crush on you and is trying to hide it]

12. They call or text with nothing specific to say

Now, this is very different than calling or texting just become you’re bored. When you’re smitten, then they do this out of excitement to talk to you, even if there’s nothing particular that they want to tell you.

13. They know everything about you

They know your likes and dislikes. If someone is not smitten, then they don’t really notice anything about you. So, if the person knows things about you and remembers things that you have told them, then they are definitely smitten.

14. People joke about them being smitten

People always like to tease their friends and family. So, if someone is getting jokes aimed at them by other people about how smitten they are, it’s because everyone is noticing how they feel.

They see the signs of the person acting and talking differently. They might even call them “whipped.” [Read: How to tell if your crush likes you – 20 subtle but foolproof signs]

15. They cancel other plans to hang out with you

When someone is smitten with you, they make you a priority in their life. This is their way of saying that they have strong feelings for you.

They may even go as far as to cancel their other plans so they can see you.

16. They compliment you even when you don’t look good

So, you just rolled out of bed and you think that you look a mess.

But if someone is smitten with you, they don’t see you that way. They only see your good qualities and they ignore anything bad about you. So, they will shower you with compliments.

17. They find your annoying habits cute

When someone is smitten with you, they ignore all the strange habits that you might have. They think you are so cute and awesome that they completely overlook some of the things that you do that could annoy other people. [Read: 25 infatuation symptoms and signs to tell how long it will last for you]

18. They are always trying to make you feel good

We all have our bad days. And when that happens to you, the person who is smitten with you will always try to cheer you up when you’re feeling down. Because when you’re feeling that way, it makes them sad too. 

19. They let you take the lead

If someone is willing to do anything you want to do and allows you to take the lead, then they are probably smitten. If you say, “We should do something tonight!” they will let you choose what it is because they want to make you happy.

How to know if YOU are smitten with someone

Now that you know the signs to look for to see if someone is smitten with you, now let’s talk about YOU. How do you know when you are smitten with someone? [Read: Infatuation definition – 10 clear signs you’re infatuated]

1. You can’t stop thinking about them

If this person is the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing you think about when you go to bed, then this is a huge sign that you are smitten. You simply can’t get them off your mind.

2. You constantly check their phone

Every time you hear your text notification, your stomach feels butterflies and you hope it’s a text from them. Or, if the phone rings, you can’t wait to hear their voice. You are constantly hoping to hear from them. [Read: Am I in love? 30 signs to read the fuzzy flutters after infatuation]

3. You daydream about them all the time

When you are smitten with someone, you can’t help but dream of a future with them. You might picture getting married to them or what your kids would look like. Daydreaming about someone is definitely a sign that you are excited and can’t wait to see a future with them.

Final thoughts

Being smitten is like being hit with a rock but in a good way. Okay, so that doesn’t make sense, but, if you have ever been smitten with someone, it does.

The signs that someone is smitten with you – and that you are smitten yourself – are all over their behavior, and every decision they make. Totally obvious, if you don’t see the signs, then you aren’t looking.

[Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between two people you just can’t miss]

Love is a very wondrous thing, especially when it happens in an instant. Being smitten with someone is that moment in your life when you know what you have been waiting for your entire life. If someone is smitten with you, then you are their image of perfection. 

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