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How to Tell if You’re in Love: 15 Clues If You’ve Never Been in Love

Many people claim they’re in love and have found the one. But if you’ve never been in love, here’s how to tell if you’re in love and what it feels like.

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For as long as time, people have been falling in love. Even in cultures that don’t actually believe love exists, people escape together just so they can live a life of happiness in each other’s arms. Love is so powerful, it transcends all races, cultures, and even species. We all know you love your pets more than some people. But if you’re never been in love with someone before, here’s how to tell if you’re in love, the real kind.

Being in love has the power to change your brain

Some people say love is a myth or something our bodies trick our minds into thinking because—as humans—we need to procreate and keep our species alive. However, science says otherwise.

Science proved when people fall in love, the chemistry of their brain completely changes. And it’s visible on an MRI scan. The fact someone has the ability to change your brain in amazing ways is beyond incredible.

How to tell if you’re in love, if you’ve never been in love

Not all of us can just order up an MRI scan of our brains whenever we think we might be in love. As convenient as that may be, it’s just not a reality for anyone. That being said, if you’ve never been in love before and are wondering how to tell if you’re in love, it might be extra difficult trying to figure it out.

But it is still possible. Even if you have no idea how to tell if you’re in love, there are definite signs to tell when love takes over your life. Here are all the signs you’re in love with someone, even if you’ve never been in love before.

#1 You can’t stop thinking about them. This is where your brain’s change of chemistry comes into play. When you’re in love, you become obsessed with someone in a small way. Your brain simply can’t stop thinking about them. [Read: How do you know when you love someone? 18 foolproof ways]

#2 You get butterflies when you think about them. When you think about them and their smile, and you get butterflies like crazy, you’re definitely in love with them. If someone sparks that type of adrenaline just by the thought of them, it’s serious.

#3 The mention of their name makes you excited. You may be minding your own business and hear their name—even if it’s not them someone’s talking about—and you can’t help but get excited. If that sounds like you, then chances are you’re with someone you’re in love with.

#4 You’re addicted to them. When you fall in love, your brain actually becomes addicted to the person that causes you to feel that way. If you feel like you hit a low whenever you leave their presence and a high when they’re around, you’re addicted and in love. [Read: 23 facts about love that will definitely blow your mind]

#5 Their presence is calming and thrilling at the same time. This is such a hard feeling to describe if you’ve never felt it before. If you can be around someone and feel completely calm, but at the same time like you’re on the best thrill ride of your life, then you’re truly in love with them.

#6 You feel their accomplishments as your own. When they succeed and bring you good news and you get JUST as excited or proud as they are, then you’re in love. When you start feeling as though someone else’s accomplishments are your own, you’re in love with them.

#7 You’d rather be doing nothing with them than something amazing without them. This is where a lot of younger people who fall in love too early run into trouble with their friends. When you would rather skip every other plan you’ve made just to sit and do nothing with someone, then you’re in love.

Now, this doesn’t always mean you’ll actually skip everything for them which is what a lot of younger people in love do. But if the feeling to do it is there, then you’re in love.

#8 You learn new things about life through them. If someone teaches you important life lessons through just being with them, and you’re willing to listen to those lessons and implement them in your life, you’re in love with them. [Read: 7 reasons why empathy is important in a relationship]

#9 You learn new things about yourself through them. If you’re wondering how to tell if you’re in love because you’ve never experienced it before, it can be hard to describe how this can be true. However, if you’re in love with someone you start to notice that they’re teaching you things about your own feelings and the way you operate without even having to try.

#10 They make you feel complete—but not dependent. Some people think they’re only half of a better whole, and they need to find that other half in order to be complete. The truth is that you don’t NEED the other half to be whole.

BUT if you happen to find someone that makes you feel complete, but you don’t depend on them solely for that purpose, then you may be in love with them. If you feel as if your life is fulfilled with them, you love them. [Read: You-complete-me relationships and why you need your space]

#11 You get along really well with them. Some people think this is an obvious sign of anyone that you enter into a relationship with, but it’s not actually always the case.

Some people are with someone they like and find attractive, but they don’t actually get along well and enjoy each other’s company for long periods of time. If you can be with them for hours on end and not fight seriously, then you could be in love. [Read: 10 signs you’re dating your best friend and don’t know it]

#12 You’re afraid of the future with them. The future is nothing to fear unless you’re in love with someone because you don’t know what it may hold for your relationship. If you’re really scared of being with someone because of the images of your future, you could be in love with them.

#13 They make you want to be a better person. This is a huge one that a lot of people don’t really realize. If the person you’re with makes you want to work harder to be a kinder, healthier, and all around better person without actually telling you anything, you are 100% in love with them.

#14 They’re the first person you want to tell good news to. When you hear good news, get a promotion, or just landed a massive deal with someone, and they’re the first person you go to with the news, you’re in love with them.

When you’re feeling on top of the world and they’re the first person you want to share that news with, that’s the person you want to be on top of the world with. [Read: Real soulmates:20 signs you’ve met the love of your life]

#15 Their happiness means more to you than yours. This is the ultimate way to tell if you’re truly in love with someone. If you would rather them be happy than for yourself to be happy, you’re in love with them.

Even if you lose them in their quest to find happiness but you would rather they find it, then you’re truly in love with them even if you’ve never been in love before.

[Read: How to know when you’re in love: 50 signs you can’t ignore]

Figuring out how to tell if you’re in love with someone can be a hard thing for anyone, especially if you’ve never been in love before. But using these 15 signs, you’ll know for sure.

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...