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Feeling Lonely? Here are Legit Reasons for Missing Your Ex

Your ex was a big part of your life… or just great in the sack! Either way, you might still be missing your ex. But there are some legit reasons.

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You may feel like a total loser for still missing your ex, but trust us, you are not alone. Even if it’s been years since the two of you snowballed from lover-ville to splitz-ville, there are completely legit reasons you could be missing that bastard.
For one, he was sweet. He always grabbed coffee for you in the morning, he knew your innermost thoughts, he made you laugh, he gave you tickle fights, he had amazing taste in music, and he also had that insatiable ability to make anything fun – even waiting to get blood drawn.
On the flip side, your ex may have been a total a-hole, but there were still definite perks to having him around. For starters? He fixed things, his shirts were inhumanly comfortable to sleep in, he cooked, he owned an X-box, paid for meals, and he had that sleek car you pretended not to care about *but it secretly made you feel like a badass*.
Legit reasons for missing your ex
So is it normal to be missing your ex way after the fact? Yep, and we’ve got 8 reasons to prove it.
#1 He had a big dick
It may not have been pretty, but it sure was big.
Admit it, even if you never openly shared your man’s impressive size with anyone, you still felt that inner sense of pride for having found a lover with such a big… *surprise* for you.
Not many men are generously endowed down south, which makes finding one who is feel much like how Charlie must have felt when unwrapping his Golden Ticket to the Chocolate Factory. But, we digress. According to one study, the average penis size is roughly about 5.2 inches in length.
If your ex was particularly impressive in the pants *and also had the incredibly ability to use it* then… we hate to say it, but you may be missing your ex for a long, long time. Once you have your first big dick, it’s hard to look at the average boner with any sort of amazement. Unfortunately, that’s a pretty legit reason for missing your ex. [Read: Getting back with an ex for sex]
#2 You haven’t found somebody new
Move over ex-boyfriend, it’s time to make room for the rebound! Or… maybe not? If you haven’t yet rebounded from your ex with a new, fun, and shiny boy to look at, then you may be stuck missing him for a while. If you’re not occupying your time with somebody new, or just playing around with a rebound, then you’ve found a pretty legit reason for missing your ex: boredom.
#3 A little *good morning notes*
As humans, we love attention shown in ways big and small. One small gesture of affection that is definitely something that keeps you missing your ex is the way he would send you a little *good morning note* and an accompanying *goodnight note* every single day just letting you know that you are on his mind. [Read: Are you still in love with your ex?]
#4 Inside jokes with your ex
That moment when you find yourself smiling at something you know he would find hilarious, but you can’t even tell him about it. Ouch.
Inside jokes are one of the basic things that separates you and your mate from anyone else *and obviously all that sex*. In the same way you can’t pass old hangout spots without missing your ex, random hilarity that reminds you of an inside joke with your ex is going to hurt like a mother. Never underestimate the crippling emotional power of an inside joke between you and your now ex.
#5 He thought about you
This is a great reason for missing your ex. There’s something to be said for being thought of throughout the day. This is undoubtedly one of the things that sucks the most after you break up with someone. Suddenly, there’s no one else in the world who seems to care about all the little things you do throughout the day – like how you slightly changed up your Starbucks order, or the weird couple arguing behind you in line at checkout. [Read: Should you date your ex again?]
#6 His family rocked your socks off
In this case you may not be missing your ex, you might actually be missing his badass mom who openly talked about sex and always kept it real, or his hilarious dad who taught you to be a Ms. Fix-It in just the span of a few months. If your ex-boyfriend had an awesome family, it may feel more like you’re breaking up with them all than just the douchebag you were actually dating. Especially in cases where you’re not emotionally or physically close to your own family, breaking up with your ex can contain a whole new level of disappointment and heartache.
#7 He was great in bed
What’s sex got to do with it? A lot, actually. If your boyfriend was a selfish ass in the sack, you’re going to have a much, much easier time getting over that jackass. That being said, if he was the king of clitoral stimulation and wouldn’t stop until you came… yikes. You’re in for a hard road ahead.
In the era of random hookups, a good lover who cares about both your emotional and physical needs between the sheets is pretty hard to find. If he knows what he’s doing with that clit, he’s a keeper. So obviously, if you end up losing that “keeper” you’re probably going to go through mourning period, even if only for the sex! [Read: Jealous of your ex?]
#8 His snuggles
There’s nothing quite like spooning with the man you love… or, should we say, loved. Being cozied up in your man’s protective arms on a lazy Saturday afternoon, coupled with his lingering cologne on the back of your shirt, and his sleepy boner against your backside – that’s what keeps you missing your ex. Well ladies, it’s pretty much the shits, and worth missing, especially if you haven’t been snuggled in a while. [Read: 16 signs your ex wants you back]
[Read: Is your ex thinking of you right now? Here are the signs]
Alright, so you and your ex are no longer a thing, and he was a total dick-head… but he was also kind of awesome when he wasn’t being such a jerk. Long story short? You are not so crazy for missing your ex. In fact, you’re totally normal.

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Waverly Smith
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