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28 Kissing Tips & Secret Techniques to Make You a Much Better Kisser

Everyone thinks they know the best kissing techniques, but how does your partner rate your smooch? Master these kissing tips and blow your partner’s mind!

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The one thing that can really make or break your chances with someone new is the first kiss. Even though it may seem really superficial, many people decide in that moment if they want to continue things with you or not. For that reason, knowing a few kissing techniques will help you to make the perfect first impression.

Kissing is a pretty intimate thing. Most people play down the significance of pressing your lips to someone else’s but, come on, it’s a pretty big deal!

By knowing a few kissing tips, you’ll be able to wow your partner, whether you intend to stay with them forever or not! [Read: 15 types of kisses – Deciphering the truth behind their smooch]

The five different types of kisses

You might assume that a kiss is just a kiss, but it’s so much more than that! There are different types of kisses you need to know about. So, when learning kissing tips, know which type of smooch you’re going for!

1. The goodnight kiss

The goodnight kiss is about making a lasting impression that will leave a mark on your date’s mind. It has to be done at the right moment to avoid any embarrassing misunderstandings. This is one of the kissing techniques to master, for sure! [Read: 29 secrets to have the perfect first kiss]

2. The private kiss

This is the kiss that starts out in an intimate and private setting. You could say that this is the preceding kiss that leads to an intense make-out session.

There are sometimes a lot of awkward starts involved, but the end culminates with a sweet kiss that builds up to a passionate one.

3. The can’t-get-enough-of-you kiss

This is the immediate make-out kiss. There are no preliminary chaste kisses involved. It usually starts off with two people colliding with each other to form an incomprehensible ball of desire. [Read: 10 ways to have the perfectly passionate kiss]

4. The surprise kiss

Much like the can’t-get-enough-of-you kiss, this one is also fueled by passion. The only difference is that only one person knows that it is about to happen.

It can happen in an elevator, while you’re quietly watching television, or even while you’re cooking.

5. The ultimate kiss

This is the kiss that everyone has been looking for all their lives. It can also be called the Sexy Kiss because of the nature of its performance. It is a sensual and slow kiss that can leave a person shivering from head to toe.

Remember that if someone really likes you, they won’t care if you’re a bad kisser

The thing with kissing is that you can easily improve with practice. Sure, you want to impress a person right away with your kissing skills but even if they’re not up to par, that person won’t mind if they truly like you. [Read: 11 signs of a bad kisser and how to fix it]

If anything, they’ll be willing to practice with you and even tell you what they like. So keep in mind that if you’re trying to learn how to kiss better for someone in particular, getting them to like you first will lessen the need for it.

Put simply, we all worry that we’re bad at kissing, but by learning some useful kissing tips and techniques, you’ll be able to kick that care out of your mind. [Read: First kiss red flags – What you can learn about someone who doesn’t kiss you well]

The best kissing techniques to leave them weak in the knees

Many people look at kisses in the movies and think, “why can’t I be kissed like that?” However, those kisses are calculated, planned, and even choreographed to look amazing and desirable. Wouldn’t it feel great to give someone a kiss that will make even the best on-screen smooch seem lame?

What you have to remember is that some kisses just don’t work out straightaway. That’s fine, you just need to figure out a little damage control in the heat of the moment! Being able to laugh about it and try again always helps.

The best kisses make your heart race, knees weak, and definitely leave you wanting a lot more. Those kisses all have certain things in common. Master these kissing techniques and you’ll be dolling out heartbeat-skipping kisses in no time. [Read: 12 foolproof kissing tips for that picture perfect smooch]

1. Make sure the kiss is wanted

This is one of the most important kissing tips out there. Gauge the other person’s reaction to your proximity throughout the evening. If they shy away when you get closer, maybe you should reconsider going in for the kiss.

If you’re finding that they’re moving closer and even initiating some contact between you, you’re probably safe.

2. Pick the right time and place

Timing is almost as important as the kiss itself. If you mess up the timing, things can get awkward really quickly.

The best time to lean in and smooch is when you have naturally drawn closer together. This is usually toward the end of the date/night when you are both feeling comfortable around each other. [Read: When to kiss a girl – 33 subtle signs to predict the magic moment]

3. Move slowly

Too drastic of a move makes it hard to gauge their reaction and makes it difficult for you to change something if it’s not appealing to them. When you move in for the kiss, do so at a slow *but not too slow* pace.

Easing your way into it builds the anticipation, and that’s a huge factor when it comes to making it a heartbeat-skipping kiss. Kissing techniques aren’t all about doing anything fancy, it’s sometimes just being able to read the other person. [Read: How to get a guy to kiss you when you want him to]

4. Start softly

When your lips finally touch, don’t shove your face as hard as you can against theirs. Very gently and softly touch your lips to theirs. The softness will create a tenderness that will be unmatched.

They will be asking *almost begging* for more.

5. Work up to it

By this, we mean put the idea in their head early on and work up to the kiss. Initiate physical contact *innocently* throughout the night.

Get closer to them as the night goes on and set yourself up to give them that amazing kiss. [Read: How to seduce someone with words and leave them weak in the knees]

6. Hand placement is key

When you’re finally ready to move into the kiss, you’ll need somewhere to put your hands. It’s always awkward kissing someone without touching them in any other way. It reminds you of two little kids planting their first kiss on someone – sad and uncomfortable.

Kissing techniques don’t always come down to what you do with your lips!

When you go in for the kiss, put one or both hands on the sides of their face. If you only use one hand to grab their face, use the other to grab them by the waist and pull them in gently so they’re that much closer to you. [Read: How to kiss a girl for the first time and not screw up]

7. Be aware of body language

Pay attention to their body language. If they’re pulling away, crossing their arms, or seem like they’re keeping their distance, the kiss might have to wait. However, if they lean in and accept your kiss, gauge if they want more.

If they’re still lingering after you’ve given that first heartbeat-skipping kiss, lean in for another and carry it on so it’s a little bit longer of a kiss. Only this time, make it a little more urgent and needy.

Body language can tell you a lot about whether or not you’re doing a great job. It will lead to that amazing, unforgettable kiss. [Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss really memorable]

8. Keep your eyes closed!

Just keep them closed. Don’t open your eyes unless your lips are not touching each other’s. It makes things awkward and uncomfortable if you catch them looking at you, too.

And that can kind of ruin the moment.

9. Use a breath mint, please!

Bad breath = horrible kiss. When all someone can pay attention to is how bad your breath is, it takes away from the rest of the amazing things you’re putting into your kiss to make it incredible. Just chew a mint or some gum shortly before the end of your date.

10. Keep your lips soft and kissable

Nobody wants to kiss dry, cracked lips. They’re very noticeable and uncomfortable. Keep your lips plumped and soft with some chapstick throughout the night/day.

Do NOT “moisturize” your lips by licking them. This just makes them wet and gives them a slobbery quality – not good. [Read: How to look after yourself as a woman – 19 ways to power yourself]

11. Keep your lips slightly parted

When you kiss someone, closed lips make it impossible to mold your lips to theirs. However, lips that are too open are just a gateway for slobber and too much tongue.

Keep your lips slightly parted and soft- just enough so you can mold your lips to theirs.

12. Don’t use your tongue during the first kiss

At least not at first. Tongue should be something that is initiated by the other person. Tongue comes after your initial kiss because it’s amazing. Throwing in some tongue too early can be awkward and uncomfortable for the other person.

What if they don’t want your tongue in their mouth just yet? Skip the tongue if you want to give them a heartbeat-skipping kiss. [Read: 20 secrets to kiss with tongue and make them crave for a lot more of you]

13. Keep it short and sweet

Don’t drag it out so long. A heartbeat-skipping kiss is one that is just brief enough for someone’s heart to actually skip a beat. It’s short, sweet, simple, and, if done correctly, will leave them coming back for more right away.

14. Don’t force it, let it happen naturally

If you’re finding that you’re struggling to make the kiss work and things aren’t coming together in the way you thought, then just leave it at that and don’t force the kiss.

No great, knee-buckling kisses were ever made by force. [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and leave him feeling turned on]

15. Just relax!

One of the most important kissing techniques most guys and girls completely overlook is this – Just take a deep breath! In order to give a truly amazing, toe-tingling kiss, you need to be relaxed. The whole process of kissing the person should be as natural and relaxed as possible.

If you’re calm and things happen naturally, the person on the receiving end of your amazing kiss will feel at ease, allowing them to fully enjoy it.

Your first kiss with someone new will always be a little nerve-wracking. If you don’t feel butterflies and slight nerves, you don’t like them that much!

Use those butterflies to add to the passion when you kiss that special someone and give them a smooch to remember! [Read: The simple moves that will make every kiss of yours feel passionate and romantic]

16. Connect mentally

Even if you’re just looking to make out with someone at a bar on the weekend, having a mental and emotional connection will make them think you’re a better kisser than you are. And although that’s not really a way to become a better kisser, it still works in your favor.

As far as kissing tips are concerned, it might not be the easiest, but it works.

17. Linger a little after

After you plan a sweet kiss on their lips, let your forehead rest against theirs for just a moment. Then move away and smile at them. It’s a very simple move, but it creates a bond.

Having that connection makes you a much better kisser than those who just pull away right after a kiss. [Read: Science of attraction – 17 things that are far more sexy than looks]

18. Let them come back for more

Don’t be the one to lean in for another kiss after the first. In fact, pull out of the kiss a little early. Give them a slow, smooth kiss and then break away.

Let them come back for another. This is a huge sign they really liked the kiss and it’ll make you seem like a better kisser simply because they’re the one going back for more. [Read: How to make a girl want you more]

19. Don’t overdo it with the setting

You don’t need to prepare a bed of roses or take your partner to a moon-lit lake. All you need is privacy, a quiet environment and a comfortable set-up. You can do this in your living room, bedroom, in the park or before you say good night to each other on the porch.

It’s not that important where you kiss a person. The important thing is that the setting feels right, if not perfect. As far as kissing tips are concerned, you don’t need to force the setting or try and overdo it.

20. The best kisses happen because of feelings

Love is a significant factor, but it’s not necessary to give a kiss like this. You and your partner need to feel secure with each other.

You have to like each other enough for this kiss to work. If not, you could just end up seducing your partner without feeling anything at all. [Read: Find out how to kiss a friend and get away with it!]

21. Show them you want to kiss them by using ‘the look’

In order to give the perfectly sexy kiss, you need to start by prepping your partner. Stand still and look into each other’s eyes. It’s okay to blink. Just appreciate the moment and show everything you’re feeling through a smoldering gaze. [Read: 10 tips to master the art of flirting with your eyes]

22. Know where to touch

Common sense denotes that touching private parts can immediately destroy your chances for a second date. So, here are the common places you can touch to make your kissing technique better.

a. Hands

By touching your partner’s hands, you’re establishing a feeling of comfort before you give them a kiss.

b. Arms

The arms are a more personal space compared to the hands. It makes the both of you feel more secure if you’re holding on to them.

c. Face

A lot of articles and studies have said that touching a person’s face can produce unparalleled feelings of attraction compared to other exposed parts of the body. Expect your partner’s heart to skip a beat once you do this. [Read: 16 ways to strengthen your bond through an innocent touch]

23. End the kiss with a little passion

To end the kiss, you have to put a bit more pressure – pain-free pressure – to the kiss before slightly sucking on your partner’s lower lip and then gradually moving away. This is a sexy type of kiss that could lead firmly toward full on making out! [Read: 10 sexy ways to turn a guy on with just the first kiss]

These kissing tips will make you a smooch master!

The kissing tips you’ve just read are sure to give you confidence because now you know what to do. But, perhaps the most important tip of them all isn’t on this list – to follow your instincts.

You can learn all about kissing techniques but the truth is that there is no solid right or wrong way to kiss someone. We all like different things! However, the tips and tricks we’ve mentioned will keep you on the right lines and stop you from veering towards slobber-street.

[Read: 22 second date tips and rules to get to know each other and fall harder]

Everybody wants to have that knee-weakening, heartbeat-skipping kiss. By following these kissing techniques and tips, you’ll be the one to give them a kiss they’ll never forget.

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