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How to Be a Good Sugar Baby: 16 Secrets to the Luxe Life

No one else enjoys the sweet life the way a sugar baby does. But living THE lifestyle doesn’t come easy, as every sugar baby will tell you.

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So if you want to be the sweetest, most successful sugar baby without a hitch, you better read up on these tips.

Let’s say you’re an attractive junior college student who wants to graduate debt-free. Or perhaps you’re a driven entrepreneur who wants to launch your startup and is seeking a boost with some financial help. Or you could be someone who is just so used to the fancy and luxurious lifestyle that you’re looking for someone who can support you in that department.

And then you meet someone who is already successful, stable, and earning loads of money. And that person just so happens to be so into you, showering you with not only affection but all your material and financial needs—and even whims. You don’t know it yet, but you’re a full-fledged sugar baby *you can give yourself a pat on the back now*.

So what exactly is a sugar baby?

A sugar baby is someone who is attractive, looking for companionship without any strings, and wouldn’t mind having the finer things in life. And their partner – a sugar daddy or mommy – has it to offer you. While it is easy to stereotype sugar babies as gold-diggers and manipulators, that isn’t actually the case for many.

Sugar babies generally seek someone who can supplement their lifestyle or help them achieve their goals. However, they also have something to offer their partners, such as intimacy, connection, or companionship. And some sugar babies even develop genuine, long-term relationships with their partners. [Read: The complete guide to snagging a rich partner or a sugar daddy]

How to be a super sugar baby

If you can hear the sugar baby lifestyle calling out to you, and it’s just what you’re looking for, here are all the tips and suggestions you need to be the perfect sugar baby catch!

#1 Feelings? What feelings? Emotions can make a relationship with a sugar daddy or mommy messy. Really messy. Sugar daddies or mommies want you to provide drama-free, mess-free, and fun relationships. So don’t bring in your emotional baggage into the equation. Be careful not to have unrealistic expectations as well. Not all sugar daddies can devote all their time, attention, effort, love, and money to you.

#2 Have the right ‘tude. Get into any *sugar daddy/mommy – sugar baby* relationship without any illusions or delusions. Often, your partner may just be in it as a way to have someone on a casual, no-string-attached basis. There’s no pressure to be anything – so serious or long-term. The agreement may already be in place, so you have to be in the right frame of mind to make it work. [Read: 14 unrealistic expectations that can ruin your love life]

#3 Know what you want and need. When you decide to be a sugar baby, then you know that the relationship dynamics will be different. So don’t be afraid to ask. But first, go over what your needs and wants are. Sugar daddies respond well if you ask them for an “investment” into your startup or venture, whether it’s your travel blog or makeup tutorial webinar.

#4 Don’t settle for less. Being a sugar baby means you have to be honest to yourself about how you see yourself and your self-worth. Never compromise your morals and values. There are people out there who would try to get the most out of you for as little as they can, and this isn’t good. Don’t settle.

Hold your ground and build a connection with someone who knows your boundaries and can make you happy on your own terms, while at the same time, putting in an effort to return the affection.

#5 Invest on your looks. As a sugar baby, you have to take care of yourself. It’s not called “sugar hag” for a reason. So brush up on your makeup skills, go hit the gym on a regular basis, and go easy on those cronuts. Your partner would want you to look and feel your best so you can give your very best to them as well. [Read: 15 real-life tips to look way better naked, in no time!]

#6 Hush the critics. Again, contrary to popular belief, not all sugar babies are gold-diggers. It’s deeper than that, actually. Often, sugar babies are there not just for sex, but also as a companion, arm candy, or even serious wife material. Some people really are just looking for someone to shower all their love, affection, and money on, and you just happen to love receiving all those. As with anything you do, don’t mind the critics – and just mind your own business. [Read: How to know if you’re being used for sex or money]

#7 Be patient. Not all people you meet who seem to be sugar daddy/mommy material really fit the bill in the long run. Therefore, it takes patience.

You have to put in a lot of work, too. Shower them with affection, time, and be there for them, especially in times when they need to be with someone who really cares. Once you get that connection, then you can go in for the kill.

#8 Know what daddy wants. Some want constant companionship, some want to have a trophy girl/boyfriend, and yet others just want to have someone to be on the receiving end of all their affection and gifts. The best and most successful sugar babies know what their sugar daddy/mommy wants and they become just that. It’s all about fulfilling a need and getting your reward in return. [Read: What is a trophy wife and why do all men desire one?]

#9 Don’t be afraid to ask. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know— or get what you want. Since your relationship is based on a give-and-take exchange, you have to assert yourself on what you want to receive. Considering that you have your arrangement laid out, your partner will appreciate it more if you know what you want, and tell him or her about it.

#10 Agree on an arrangement. For every relationship to run smoothly, you have to set it up on a foundation of mutual agreement. As such, an arrangement must be clear-cut for the both of you so that you can set expectations and avoid misunderstandings and disappointments in the future. [Read: 15 signs you’re a high maintenance woman that all men desire]

#11 Be discreet. Discretion is important, especially if you are dating a successful, powerful, influential, wealthy older man. First of all, they have a reputation to uphold.

Many of them, as old-fashioned as they probably are, wouldn’t also want you going around and posting your pictures together on social media. And they also wouldn’t want you to post stuff about your relationship, especially if you have misunderstandings. It’s best to keep it low-key and to play it safe.

#12 Make the most of it. The advantages of being a sugar baby is endless—if you know how to maximize it. Typically, your partner may have skills, expertise, influence, connections, and money to help you get ahead in your career – and even in life in general. Your sugar daddy/mommy can actually be not just your partner, lover, and friend, but also your confidante, mentor, and benefactor. [Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship]

#13 Appreciation is an art. Remember to be genuine with your partner, especially when it comes to accepting gifts, favors, affections, and other things. As a sugar baby, you will be on the receiving end of a lot of these, so you better brush up on the “Art of Appreciation.” So even if you have nothing to offer your partner but your body, time, and affection, he/she will feel great that you like the Tiffany earrings or the Lake Como villa vacation.

#14 Emotional expectations. You have to be prepared for the kind of emotional connection you will have with your partner. Whatever it is, the important thing is to be honest with yourself and what you want, as well as to be genuine to your partner. There’s nothing worse than agreeing on a setup and having your partner find out you’ve been faking it all along. [Read: Casual relationship rules to keep a relationship just happily casual]

#15 Be on guard. Just because your partner has given you the moon and the stars doesn’t mean you have to give too soon in return. First of all, trust shouldn’t come easily and it should still be earned, as with any other kind of relationship.

Emotionally speaking, you have to guard your heart too, so you can be sure you don’t fall too hard too soon, and end up giving more than you have bargained for.

#16 Be self-sufficient. While a self-sufficient sugar baby may be an oxymoron, it is actually wise to not rely on your sugar for income. Consider you sugar as a bonus that comes in after your own paycheck. You should be able to cover your own bills and obligations, and the sugar should only be used for supplementing your luxurious lifestyle.

Sugar babies are great at using their unique qualities to their advantage, and by this, we mean heating your partner’s sweet spot. Once you successfully do this, then you’re in for a treat, which means luxury vacations, expensive gifts, fanciest dinners, couture clothes, and lots and lots of moolah.

[Read: 10 sneaky signs that make you the perfect 24K gold digger]

And when you look at it that way, being a sugar baby definitely does sound like a lot of fun. So if this is something that you know you’d love and enjoy, snag yourself the perfect sugar daddy or mommy and enjoy the spoils of their riches!

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Tiffany Grace Reyes
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