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11 Honest Reasons He Hasn’t Called You After Your Date

Are you driving yourself crazy trying to figure out why he hasn’t called you after your date? We’ve got some insight into what may be going on. By Bennett O’Brien

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Going on a first date can be an exciting yet nerve wracking experience. There are a million things to consider: Will he like you? Do you look okay? Are you compatible? Is something stuck between your teeth?

Further complicating the situation is the fact that oftentimes, you don’t know the guy whom you are going on the date with very well. So, if something goes wrong, or if you’re not getting called afterwards, it can be very difficult to tell exactly what’s going on. It’s not like you can just read their body language, because that’s very hard to do with people whom you don’t know well.

Why hasn’t he called you after your date?

Sometimes the person can act like everything is going well but then… nothing. No phone calls, no texts, nothing. How frustrating! Here are some possible reasons to help you figure out why he hasn’t called you back after your date.

#1 He lost your number. This is the simplest and most innocent reason. Perhaps your date really did go extremely well, just like you thought it did. Maybe the chemistry and the bond were really there. There is a chance that he either entered your number wrong on his phone, he accidentally deleted it, or if you wrote it down on a piece of paper, he lost that. Men can sadly be extremely clumsy like this sometimes.

#2 He broke or lost his phone. This could be another simple logistical reason why he hasn’t called you back. He may simply have dropped his phone on the street and broken it. He may have gotten mugged on the street while constructing a perfectly sweet text for you. But then again, he could always get it fixed or rely on social media to find you again.

#3 He got back together with his ex. Hopefully, this isn’t the situation. But anyone who has ever been in an on-again off-again relationship knows that sometimes, you can just end up back with your ex before you know it. So maybe your date has simply returned to his ex. Perhaps he really liked her, and she finally messaged him, and said she would give their relationship another go. Who knows, maybe your date made him realize that he’s perfect for his ex. And in a way, that’s a good thing, right? [Read: 13 secret signs the guy you dated isn’t over his ex]

#4 He’s just not feeling it. Chemistry is a tricky thing: it’s either there or it isn’t. It can be hard to tell someone that he’s not feeling it directly through a phone call. So perhaps, to avoid hurting your feelings he just decided to not call you back. If you message him and he doesn’t respond, it’s probably likely that something like this is happening. [Read: 15 signs he likes you, but isn’t into you]

#5 He’s just way too shy. Guys too, can be extremely shy at times. If he’s not calling you back, it could be because he wasn’t sure if you liked him on the first date. Maybe he’s scared that if he asks you out on a second date, you will say no. Nobody willingly seeks out rejection.

If you suspect that he’s just the really shy type, you might want to send him a text message with a lot of flirty emojis or something that would let him know that you’re not going to reject a proposal for a second date. This will help him see that you are into him! [Read: A little insight into the mind of an introvert]

#6 He could be extremely busy. Occasionally, men can just get extremely busy. If your date went really well, but it’s been a few days and he hasn’t called to ask you out again or just chat, it could be because something has come up in his life.

It could be that his workload suddenly picked up, or that he is going through something with his family. Charming men whom you have good dates with are not immune to the hustle and bustle of life.

#7 He may think you don’t like him. Even if the guy you had a great date with isn’t shy, he still might get the impression that you didn’t like him that much. If you are someone who tends to have a resting bitchface, that could be why. Or, if you are someone who uses a lot of sarcasm, it could be another reason he’s hesitant to call you. For one reason or another, even if you liked him, he might have still thought that you didn’t, and that could be why he isn’t calling you.

#8 He may have moved on to someone else already. The world of dating is extremely fast paced these days. Especially since Tinder has arrived on the scene, dating opportunities come and go very quickly. The guy you went on a date with may have had two other dates on that same day. Maybe one of his other dates went better than yours did. If this is the case, then you can go Tinder away and move on as well! [Read: 19 warning signs to look out for on the first few dates]

#9 He may have realized that he’s not yet ready to play the dating game. Sometimes, guys will start dating before they are really ready. If they have just gone through a bad breakup, or if they have been through some other hardship in their lives, they may not be emotionally ready to begin dating again. Sometimes, they may think they’re ready, but it only takes one experience in the dating world to tell them that they may need some more time.

#10 He’s waiting on you to make the first move. This one isn’t as common, but it is possible that he wants you to make the first move. This could be the case if you are a girl who has a more dominant personality. Occasionally, the typical gender roles can get reversed. On the date, he may have gotten the impression that you’re the go-getter type who doesn’t mind making the first move. [Read: 18 body language moves to know for sure if he likes you during the date]

#11 He just forgot. There’s an awkward situation that arises when a guy forgets to call you a few days after the date, and then he deems it too late to make amends by calling you back. He may also have forgotten to call you because he got so drunk that he could barely remember what your name is on his phone. Yikes!

So ladies, if you went out and had a fantastic Hollywood movie-like date, but the guy never called you back, these reasons can help you figure out why. It may have nothing to do with compatibility or other romantic factors. It could be as simple as him dropping his phone down a sewer grate.

[Read: 50 exciting first date ideas that would ensure he’ll call you back]

Don’t get disheartened when a guy doesn’t call you back after your date. There are tons of reasons this happens, and some of these reasons can be resolved by sucking it up and making the first move. Otherwise, you can just quit holding your breath and move on to other dating options.


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