I’m Lex Butler, a freelance LovePanky.com contributor based in sunny San Diego, CA, who is passionate about sexual freedom, health, and responsibility. When I’m not writing about wicked games and tough conversations, I’m moderating an amazing adult coloring meet up full of interesting, savvy young women. Additionally, I enjoy cooking (my secret ingredient is love), urban exploration, and spending quality time with my husband.

Latest Features by Lex Butler

A Compelling Case Against Dating a Bad Boy

Bad boys may be nothing but trouble, but they’re also hard to resist. While they are appealing, you deserve so much better. Let’s discuss that.

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What to Do on Your First Date with an Online Match

What do you do when the hottie you’ve been lusting after online asks you out? These ten tips will help you prep for your first date.

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10 Pro Tips That Will Help You Survive Your Twenties

Navigating your way through your twenties can be crazy. Here are ten life lessons that will make the best years of your life even better.

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13 Spicy Sex Positions to Heat Up Your Bedroom Romps

Whether you and your lover are new to sex, new to each other or have fallen into a rut, these 13 spicy positions are sure to show you a good time.

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Whoa There! 8 Signs You’re Coming On Way Too Strong

They say you have to put yourself out there. But are you enticingly presenting yourself to the world or are you pushing yourself onto other people?

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Who’s on Top? 8 Ways to Make Missionary Sex Magical

Have you ever wondered how you can revamp your missionary sex? These eight twerk quirks will have you making missionary magic in no time.

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10 Ways to Subtly Ask Your Partner to Get Tested

Have you talked to your partner about getting tested for STIs? If not, here are 10 subtle suggestions that will help you learn their status.

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From Red Room to Real World: BDSM in Your Boudoir

With the hype brought on by media like 50 Shades of Grey, how can typical couples incorporate a dash of BDSM into their sex lives?

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